u/Creepy_Dot_9898

After 4 months of daily contact and getting very close, the guy I’m seeing vanished for a week (right on my birthday). He eventually resurfaced to say he wants to keep things going but "isn't in the right place to commit."

I’m in love with him and our chemistry is great, but his sudden disappearance and the lack of commitment are hard to square with my feelings. Has anyone successfully navigated this shift in expectations? I'm finding it nearly impossible to imagine moving on, but I'm worried about staying in limbo.

My boyfriend (M25) and I (F22) have been together for 4 months. I am a virgin and don’t have much experience with sexual health or boundaries in relationships yet. Recently, he has been asking to have sex without a condom. His reasoning is that because I am a virgin, he "trusts" me and he says he wants to "feel me 100%." He also told me he can't commit more to me right now because his life is a mess but he talks about our future all the time. It sounds wrong to me but I also like him so much, is this something I can ignore?