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I then got something in the mail for $4 bucks a month for a year. Can I add that on top of my promo?

I had it before, cancelled it then realized I missed it. So they offered for $2 a month for 3 months.

Think I can stack it? Should I wait until my $2 buck promo ends and then redeem the $4 a month?

One of the LT’s in my department wanted me to start a paper a week ago. Mind you I’m in FTO, so I’m definitely doing a lot. But of course I said yes sir, I’ll get it done. I started the paper in the early part of the week but forgot.

Came up to the department today on my day off to finish it. No problem, I’m not complaining.

I finished it, gave it to him in hard copy and email. I already knew he’d run it through an Ai detector.

I told him the only thing I used Ai for was a breakdown of the statue. This is my first time in this career field and the LT is also an FTO at the moment. He said don’t use Ai for that. I said yes sir. No issues at all.

It printed all jacked up and he asked if I copy and pasted it. I said no sir. Absolutely not. Just the formatting was off. Wasn’t sure how to fix it in that moment.

Well it came back 62% Ai and the rest human. I have little experience with DUI’s since I’m in my 2nd week. So I had no choice but to be straight forward with my understanding of each subsection of the statue. Very baseline examples. Plus I have a degree, always been good at college essays and writing and a huge reader.

This LT is just a hard guy. Not in a bad way. I respect him, I respect his knowledge and respect him overall as a person. He just wants us to do good.

I asked could he please compare the paper to my past reports. He said no and I said okay. And just left. No arguing, no freaking out, nothing. I’ve even been told I’m good at writing reports.

My Sgt who is my FTO, I updated him on the situation because he asked and said to not worry about it and another officer witnessed me writing the paper. And he’s aware the LT can be hard on recruits sometimes.

I obviously don’t see writing the paper as punishment but just to get the gears turning in our heads about certain statues.

Another recruit wrote a paper as well and was told it was bad.

I know this isn’t world ending. But between all the things I’ve experienced in FTO, now being accused I’m not telling the truth, it just kinda bothers me. Plus the lack of sleep. Whew, don’t even get me started. lol.

But anyways! I just wanted to vent a little. Again, I have no qualms with anyone in our department. I just wish I was believed I guess?

I’m just saying if you don’t trust Ai, why use a detector? Do people not think those also can give a false reading as well?

Idk if this is a game or what.

Edit: I’ve gotten good feedback through FTO tho. Of course there’s things I can make better. But I’ve been told I can take criticism, rectify my mistakes, I go out looking for calls, I’m good with talking to people out in the community, etc. so I’m trying to focus on the good.

Edit 2: I do want to say I spend 99% of my time in the streets. That paper was a “fit it in when you can”.

The fuck? 🤣

I was like “kids? In this economy? You have jokes”. I’m very straight forward with being childfree if it’s a topic.

Or if someone assumes I have kids.

That’s like the ultimate insult to me.

I’m NOBODY’s mother. 🤣

It’s almost kinda scary to think I’ll never enjoy living with someone again.

I’m at my age to where all my friends have kids, husbands, wives, etc. so moving a friend in usually ain’t an option.

This October marks 2 years of living on my own after my own separation and while I enjoy it. I don’t think I can handle living with someone again. I’m particularly clean about my space, enjoy my alone time in my own house, enjoy my own bed, etc.

I’m dating and usually after a year or two, people bring up the idea of living together despite their previous failed attempts to maintain a partner in the home after a break up themselves. Or they say it’s their goal to live together one day. And that’s understandable. Been there, done that.

But after living with a total of 2 partners in my life and none of them working out long term, I’m not keen on ever trying again to be honest.

That’s what scares me the most. That it’ll never work out. But also I’m accepting that it might not ever work out as well.

I wish it would. But I’m just like…. Don’t wanna risk that again.

The risk just doesn’t seem worth it.

On top of that, I feel it’s hard to find genuine connections where people legit want to live with you and don’t wanna just release a financial burden by living by themselves.

Even then, I just don’t feel ready and don’t think I ever will or trust someone to that capacity again.

Let me tell y’all something that’ll actually help a lot of people in the start of the process or if you feel like it’s headed that way. Always be ready to stand on your own.

I mean that seriously. Be prepared to survive alone if you have to.

People change. One day they’re all in, the next day they’re gone. That’s just reality. You can be in a relationship, even married, and still end up by yourself overnight.

So have a backup plan. Always.

I’ve said this before, but it really hit me again being in that position myself two years ago.

It doesn’t matter how much you think someone loves you or how loyal they seem. You still need your own foundation.

Have somewhere you can go. Have something saved. Be ready.

Because at the end of the day, the only person you can fully depend on is yourself.

I’m gonna say it one more time—always have a plan for yourself.

People can switch up without warning, and you don’t want to be left in a position where you can’t take care of yourself.

Stay ready to stand on your own, no matter what.

Call me a negative Nancy.

But for the parents who say they regret their kids, but look forward to an empty house as the economy continues to fluctuate to the point that it gets worse every year is hilarious.

Sure, I’m sure some kids will grow up and make it out.

But it was already hell getting late Millineals out the house. I would know, I’m one of them. I left at 19 but had to come back in my mid 20s due to circumstances. I’m now 31 and have been on my own for some years.

But these are the same parents who complain parenting is expensive. You think your kid growing up and attempting to support themselves in an economy where Gen Z and millennials can even barely afford a house won’t trickle down onto them as well?

I’m a rookie, so I know I haven’t scene ‘everything’ I’m gonna see yet.

The creepiest thing I’ve seen is a dead body in a house and a woman who died in a tanning salon bed.

But how about you?

I’m legit just curious.

I’m not here to brag about not having instagram. Plenty of people don’t use it.

But man, that app is just weird.

I remember when I got it back in 2010/2011 time frame and loved it.

But then 2016 rolls around and it just went down hill from there. I think fb ended up buying it around that time. So it makes sense it went down hill.

Same with Snapchat. Just watching people do things or watching their pictures is beyond boring.

My friends asked if I had Snapchat. And personally as a 31 year old, having Snapchat and snapping people are the least of my personal priorities. Same with watching what ppl do.

They’ll try to convince me to try it out and I’m just like I’m not feeling it. Just another thing to keep up with.

Plus everything is infested with ads.

Of course I miss the old idea of instagram and fb where you posted pics and shared your life and ppl didn’t fight over dumb stuff nor did you see an ad every scroll.

Thinking about deleting fb next.

It’s more so I’ll never let anyone take anything from me again. I promise you that.

The fact someone can upend someone’s life in a heartbeat for whatever reason whether it’s valid or not is crazy to me.

Yes, I never wanna hold anyone hostage whether we were dating or married. And yes, I always want people to have the option to leave.

But when you marry someone, you depend on them in a sense to keep the things you worked hard for and that’s an insane concept to me that’s so normalized by society that even I fell for it.

Someone not feeling it anymore? They’ll leave. Understandable, I get it. But still. Don’t have sex enough? Gone. Get bored? Yeah, they’re getting outah there. Dreams don’t align anymore? Good luck.

How many times on here have you seen people saying they have to sell the house now their spouse left? Lose their vehicles? Move in with their family? Possibly lose a job? Split the kids? Be homeless? Broke?

I was a victim to a few things minus the kid portion because I don’t have em and never will. And didn’t have to move back with my parents. After a failed relationship in my early 20’s, I already played that card. 😂 wasn’t gonna do THAT again.

But I lost my house 2 years ago (I’m looking to buy this year for myself thankful), lost my job they also worked at, had to sell my truck and overall my life was just fucked tbh.

I had to eat out the trash to survive. It SUCKED.

The only good thing that came from it all was I learned I can survive on my own, got my credit in the 750’s after getting off the credit cards and rebuilding, I can feed myself again, I love living alone and no one else in my space, found a better job and got my dream career and much more.

I’m not going to sit here and pretend my ex spouse didn’t do great things in my life. But my goodness. I will never do this again.

2 years later and I’m still thankful Iam at where Iam today and the independence I gained.

Just me and my cats.

Yeah, idk what else to type.

I’m just kinda crying to myself on the toilet now.

Then gonna clean myself up and go back to work.

Idk who else to tell. So I’m just venting.

They had a cat they can’t take care of anymore so I’m gonna swing by after hours at the shelter, adopt him and take over care of him.

Edit: ive since stopped crying. Just breathing through it. Don’t plan on quitting or anything. Just got emotional.

Yeah, idk what else to type.

I’m just kinda crying to myself on the toilet now.

Then gonna clean myself up and go back to work.

Idk who else to tell. So I’m just venting.

They had a cat they can’t take care of anymore so I’m gonna swing by after hours at the shelter, adopt him and take over care of him.