I'm seeing a girl and we've been having sex lately; she's kind of sensitive, especially when it comes to sex. She told me this and we reached a normal consensus on the matter, but it wasn't about physical sensitivity, she says it's sensitivity, but it sounds more like something premature; not in a bad way, but something I don't know how to solve.
I really enjoy foreplay, charming a woman in bed and engaging her turns me on more than actually receiving oral sex or orgasming; however, women commonly find satisfaction through penetration (whether oral or with a penis), and this girl, even if I try, she still ends up kind of encouraging and pushing me to go straight in (fingers or penis), she orgasms very quickly and says it's very good. This is the point, while I really enjoy making a woman orgasm and it satisfies me, the exclusion of foreplay causes me a certain amount of impotence. This is pathetic too, especially since foreplay is supposed to stimulate her, not me, but she always seems aroused and ends up orgasming very quickly, even if I slow down, change positions, talk dirty, or try to create a physical connection. She just seems to want a hard, direct, silent thrust.
I don't know if this is really a good thing, because for many guys this is an incredible feat, but I find it too quick and superficial for the way I see sexual relations; no matter if I try something different, it seems that's all she wants, and it becomes a bit tiresome, but at the same time pleasurable for me to give pleasure to another person... but it ends up not being quite the way I wanted, you understand?
I see this scenario happening more in the opposite way, women having difficulty weakening a virile man with a heart of stone in bed; but this is absurd to me, because she has a very high libido and women also tend to last longer. Is this solvable through conversation? Are there any positions that help prolong sex without losing the passion? Is it a problem that she's premature, or am I not exploring this technique well enough?