u/Correct-Character900

Hey everyone I am writing this because I really do not know how to deal with everything that has happened and I could really use some advice from people who have been through things.

I am an engineering student. I used to be an average student.. Over the past few months my life has kind of fallen apart. I now have a backlog from my semester and even failed two subjects in my mid semester exams. I know it is my fault. A big part of it is how much this relationship with my ex girlfriend affected me mentally.

I was in a relationship where I gave it my emotionally, physically and financially. I would skip meals just so I could buy my ex girlfriend food when we went out. I even saved up around ₹10k for my ex girlfriends birthday gift even though it meant cutting down on my needs. I thought that if I gave more my ex girlfriend would feel loved and things would work out between us.

My ex girlfriend kept telling me I did not have enough time, patience or money for her. That really messed with my head because I was already stretching myself much. Yet it was never enough for my ex girlfriend. Looking back my ex girlfriend also never really recognized my efforts in the way I had hoped she would.

At the time my ex girlfriend was very affectionate and clingy. My ex girlfriend showed a lot of love. Always wanted me around physically which made me feel like she really cared about me.. Over time it also started to feel like most of what my ex girlfriend wanted revolved around physical closeness and intimacy and less around actually building something stable together between us.

There were also patterns that confused me a lot about my ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend would often play the victim in situations even when I felt like I was the one putting in effort. My ex girlfriend could be very controlling at times. Reacting to things like me going out with friends or making me feel guilty for not meeting her expectations even after we broke up. My ex girlfriend also had kinds of conversations and behavior with some of her friends that made me uncomfortable and unsure about where I stood with my ex girlfriend.

As the relationship with my girlfriend progressed I also came to know about aspects of my ex girlfriends life that were deeply unsettling for me. These included smoking, substance use and involvement in things like selling explicit content and having transactional relationships for money. None of my ex girlfriends friends even knew about this and I only found out while I was with my ex girlfriend, which added a lot of emotional stress and confusion to my life. while she is still a teenager she did this stuff in middle school

Despite all of this I truly loved my ex girlfriend. I ignored a lot of things because I thought my ex girlfriend was the one for me. I believed things would work out somehow between us. (this is only 50% of the horrible stuff she did. i don't wanna talk about the rest because its too tiring and just straight up horrible and toxic).

After the breakup with my ex girlfriend things somehow got even messier. I went out with a friend once and out of respect for my ex girlfriend I did not even take pictures or anything. I told my ex girlfriend about it honestly. She got really angry and again said I never had time or money for her. That made me realize my ex girlfriend still had some sort of hold over me.

Then it got worse. Some of my friends leaked my chats where I was venting about my ex girlfriend and it reached my ex girlfriend.. In a moment of frustration I ended up sharing details about my ex girlfriends past with someone I thought already knew. I regret that now. Everything was just so chaotic at that point.

The whole situation with my ex girlfriend has left me drained. I feel like I lost myself trying to make it work with my ex girlfriend. Now I still get thoughts about my ex girlfriend constantly. I know this whole situation was bad for me. I can clearly see how much it has affected my studies and my life but I still cannot fully let go mentally of my ex girlfriend. idk why but i still feel connected to her because i truly truly loved her and did so much for her and she called my love fake. even then i still.. idk what this is but i genuinely want to get over her.

I really need advice on how to deal with these thoughts when they come up about my ex girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. Get back on track with my studies? And also I would appreciate your perspective on this whole situation, with my ex girlfriend. What do you guys think about it?

Any advice would really help me move on from my ex girlfriend

Hey everyone I am writing this because I really do not know how to deal with everything that has happened and I could really use some advice from people who have been through things.

I am an engineering student. I used to be an average student.. Over the past few months my life has kind of fallen apart. I now have a backlog from my semester and even failed two subjects in my mid semester exams. I know it is my fault. A big part of it is how much this relationship with my ex girlfriend affected me mentally.

I was in a relationship where I gave it my emotionally, physically and financially. I would skip meals just so I could buy my ex girlfriend food when we went out. I even saved up around ₹10k for my ex girlfriends birthday gift even though it meant cutting down on my needs. I thought that if I gave more my ex girlfriend would feel loved and things would work out between us.

My ex girlfriend kept telling me I did not have enough time, patience or money for her. That really messed with my head because I was already stretching myself much. Yet it was never enough for my ex girlfriend. Looking back my ex girlfriend also never really recognized my efforts in the way I had hoped she would.

At the time my ex girlfriend was very affectionate and clingy. My ex girlfriend showed a lot of love. Always wanted me around physically which made me feel like she really cared about me.. Over time it also started to feel like most of what my ex girlfriend wanted revolved around physical closeness and intimacy and less around actually building something stable together between us.

There were also patterns that confused me a lot about my ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend would often play the victim in situations even when I felt like I was the one putting in effort. My ex girlfriend could be very controlling at times. Reacting to things like me going out with friends or making me feel guilty for not meeting her expectations even after we broke up. My ex girlfriend also had kinds of conversations and behavior with some of her friends that made me uncomfortable and unsure about where I stood with my ex girlfriend.

As the relationship with my girlfriend progressed I also came to know about aspects of my ex girlfriends life that were deeply unsettling for me. These included smoking, substance use and involvement in things like selling explicit content and having transactional relationships for money. None of my ex girlfriends friends even knew about this and I only found out while I was with my ex girlfriend, which added a lot of emotional stress and confusion to my life. while she is still a teenager she did this stuff in middle school

Despite all of this I truly loved my ex girlfriend. I ignored a lot of things because I thought my ex girlfriend was the one for me. I believed things would work out somehow between us. (this is only 50% of the horrible stuff she did. i don't wanna talk about the rest because its too tiring and just straight up horrible and toxic).

After the breakup with my ex girlfriend things somehow got even messier. I went out with a friend once and out of respect for my ex girlfriend I did not even take pictures or anything. I told my ex girlfriend about it honestly. She got really angry and again said I never had time or money for her. That made me realize my ex girlfriend still had some sort of hold over me.

Then it got worse. Some of my friends leaked my chats where I was venting about my ex girlfriend and it reached my ex girlfriend.. In a moment of frustration I ended up sharing details about my ex girlfriends past with someone I thought already knew. I regret that now. Everything was just so chaotic at that point.

The whole situation with my ex girlfriend has left me drained. I feel like I lost myself trying to make it work with my ex girlfriend. Now I still get thoughts about my ex girlfriend constantly. I know this whole situation was bad for me. I can clearly see how much it has affected my studies and my life but I still cannot fully let go mentally of my ex girlfriend. idk why but i still feel connected to her because i truly truly loved her and did so much for her and she called my love fake. even then i still.. idk what this is but i genuinely want to get over her.

I really need advice on how to deal with these thoughts when they come up about my ex girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. Get back on track with my studies? And also I would appreciate your perspective on this whole situation, with my ex girlfriend. What do you guys think about it?

Any advice would really help me move on from my ex girlfriend

Hey everyone I am writing this because I really do not know how to deal with everything that has happened and I could really use some advice from people who have been through things.

I am an engineering student. I used to be an average student.. Over the past few months my life has kind of fallen apart. I now have a backlog from my semester and even failed two subjects in my mid semester exams. I know it is my fault. A big part of it is how much this relationship with my ex girlfriend affected me mentally.

I was in a relationship where I gave it my emotionally, physically and financially. I would skip meals just so I could buy my ex girlfriend food when we went out. I even saved up around ₹10k for my ex girlfriends birthday gift even though it meant cutting down on my needs. I thought that if I gave more my ex girlfriend would feel loved and things would work out between us.

My ex girlfriend kept telling me I did not have enough time, patience or money for her. That really messed with my head because I was already stretching myself much. Yet it was never enough for my ex girlfriend. Looking back my ex girlfriend also never really recognized my efforts in the way I had hoped she would.

At the time my ex girlfriend was very affectionate and clingy. My ex girlfriend showed a lot of love. Always wanted me around physically which made me feel like she really cared about me.. Over time it also started to feel like most of what my ex girlfriend wanted revolved around physical closeness and intimacy and less around actually building something stable together between us.

There were also patterns that confused me a lot about my ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend would often play the victim in situations even when I felt like I was the one putting in effort. My ex girlfriend could be very controlling at times. Reacting to things like me going out with friends or making me feel guilty for not meeting her expectations even after we broke up. My ex girlfriend also had kinds of conversations and behavior with some of her friends that made me uncomfortable and unsure about where I stood with my ex girlfriend.

As the relationship with my girlfriend progressed I also came to know about aspects of my ex girlfriends life that were deeply unsettling for me. These included smoking, substance use and involvement in things like selling explicit content and having transactional relationships for money. None of my ex girlfriends friends even knew about this and I only found out while I was with my ex girlfriend, which added a lot of emotional stress and confusion to my life. while she is still a teenager she did this stuff in middle school

Despite all of this I truly loved my ex girlfriend. I ignored a lot of things because I thought my ex girlfriend was the one for me. I believed things would work out somehow between us. (this is only 50% of the horrible stuff she did. i don't wanna talk about the rest because its too tiring and just straight up horrible and toxic).

After the breakup with my ex girlfriend things somehow got even messier. I went out with a friend once and out of respect for my ex girlfriend I did not even take pictures or anything. I told my ex girlfriend about it honestly. She got really angry and again said I never had time or money for her. That made me realize my ex girlfriend still had some sort of hold over me.

Then it got worse. Some of my friends leaked my chats where I was venting about my ex girlfriend and it reached my ex girlfriend.. In a moment of frustration I ended up sharing details about my ex girlfriends past with someone I thought already knew. I regret that now. Everything was just so chaotic at that point.

The whole situation with my ex girlfriend has left me drained. I feel like I lost myself trying to make it work with my ex girlfriend. Now I still get thoughts about my ex girlfriend constantly. I know this whole situation was bad for me. I can clearly see how much it has affected my studies and my life but I still cannot fully let go mentally of my ex girlfriend. idk why but i still feel connected to her because i truly truly loved her and did so much for her and she called my love fake. even then i still.. idk what this is but i genuinely want to get over her.

I really need advice on how to deal with these thoughts when they come up about my ex girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. Get back on track with my studies? And also I would appreciate your perspective on this whole situation, with my ex girlfriend. What do you guys think about it?

Any advice would really help me move on from my ex girlfriend

Hey everyone I am writing this because I really do not know how to deal with everything that has happened and I could really use some advice from people who have been through things.

I am an engineering student. I used to be an average student.. Over the past few months my life has kind of fallen apart. I now have a backlog from my semester and even failed two subjects in my mid semester exams. I know it is my fault. A big part of it is how much this relationship with my ex girlfriend affected me mentally.

I was in a relationship where I gave it my emotionally, physically and financially. I would skip meals just so I could buy my ex girlfriend food when we went out. I even saved up around ₹10k for my ex girlfriends birthday gift even though it meant cutting down on my needs. I thought that if I gave more my ex girlfriend would feel loved and things would work out between us.

My ex girlfriend kept telling me I did not have enough time, patience or money for her. That really messed with my head because I was already stretching myself much. Yet it was never enough for my ex girlfriend. Looking back my ex girlfriend also never really recognized my efforts in the way I had hoped she would.

At the time my ex girlfriend was very affectionate and clingy. My ex girlfriend showed a lot of love. Always wanted me around physically which made me feel like she really cared about me.. Over time it also started to feel like most of what my ex girlfriend wanted revolved around physical closeness and intimacy and less around actually building something stable together between us.

There were also patterns that confused me a lot about my ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend would often play the victim in situations even when I felt like I was the one putting in effort. My ex girlfriend could be very controlling at times. Reacting to things like me going out with friends or making me feel guilty for not meeting her expectations even after we broke up. My ex girlfriend also had kinds of conversations and behavior with some of her friends that made me uncomfortable and unsure about where I stood with my ex girlfriend.

As the relationship with my girlfriend progressed I also came to know about aspects of my ex girlfriends life that were deeply unsettling for me. These included smoking, substance use and involvement in things like selling explicit content and having transactional relationships for money. None of my ex girlfriends friends even knew about this and I only found out while I was with my ex girlfriend, which added a lot of emotional stress and confusion to my life.

Despite all of this I truly loved my ex girlfriend. I ignored a lot of things because I thought my ex girlfriend was the one for me. I believed things would work out somehow between us. (this is only 50% of the horrible stuff she did. i don't wanna talk about the rest because its too tiring and just straight up horrible and toxic).

After the breakup with my ex girlfriend things somehow got even messier. I went out with a friend once and out of respect for my ex girlfriend I did not even take pictures or anything. I told my ex girlfriend about it honestly. She got really angry and again said I never had time or money for her. That made me realize my ex girlfriend still had some sort of hold over me.

Then it got worse. Some of my friends leaked my chats where I was venting about my ex girlfriend and it reached my ex girlfriend.. In a moment of frustration I ended up sharing details about my ex girlfriends past with someone I thought already knew. I regret that now. Everything was just so chaotic at that point.

The whole situation with my ex girlfriend has left me drained. I feel like I lost myself trying to make it work with my ex girlfriend. Now I still get thoughts about my ex girlfriend constantly. I know this whole situation was bad for me. I can clearly see how much it has affected my studies and my life but I still cannot fully let go mentally of my ex girlfriend. idk why but i still feel connected to her because i truly truly loved her and did so much for her and she called my love fake. even then i still.. idk what this is but i genuinely want to get over her.

I really need advice on how to deal with these thoughts when they come up about my ex girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. Get back on track with my studies? And also I would appreciate your perspective on this whole situation, with my ex girlfriend. What do you guys think about it?

Any advice would really help me move on from my ex girlfriend