Almost every positions we do during sex hits my bladder and I get the urge to pee. The «safe ones» feels like nothing. Is this normal/what could it be and how do I avoid it
Intimacy is getting boring and repetitive, how do I improve?
My partner brought this up the other day and I agree. The part i need advice on is that i don’t really know how to. The problem is that whenever we try a new position it 9/10 times hits my bladder to the point where i need to run to the bathroom. 10/10 times my partner suggested the new thing to try, making them feel like they failed.
It’s on me to take more initiative to trying new stuff, but I’m also somewhere on the ace spectrum. I enjoy sex and the intimacy of it, but i don’t really think about it outside of sex and my brain goes blank whenever i try to think of something new. I’ve never been very sexual, don’t care about pleasure by myself, porn makes me extremely uncomfortable and to my partner’s disappointment I feel very awkward about showing myself off (pleasuring myself in front of him, showing off in lingerie and so on)
So the two things is how do I stop hitting my bladder (missionary, cowgirl and sometimes doggy is the few ones I’ve found where I don’t need to pee). I feel like penetration either feels like nothing or it hits my bladder.
Second is how do I get more creative? I’ve never felt very confident in my sexuality, so i think that might be a reason why I find it so hard