u/Comprehensive_Alps28

hey hey i fell down a rabbit hole of natural hair influencers who were also alt (which it lowkey felt like the idea of being natural in the 2010s was alt in itsself) and i came across the name nefertiti bourne.

when i looked it up i saw it was a girl i watched all the time in HS and College 2012-2019 and really was a pioneer for my style and defenitely on par with that Art Ho collective black tumblr era that Sza Mars Anja and that crowd.

but when i searched if she was doing any content now i found a youtube page probably her original one rebranded as a graphic design portfolio with no old videos. and one other video from 10. years ago on someones elses account she happen to be in.

does anyone know what happened to her or why she doesn’t make content anymore? Like I said for me, this was a very informative era and I guess you could say influencers like her where my idea of an Alex Earl or whatever the hell the girls have on TikTok nowadays.

But due to personal problems myself, I also feel off the Internet for quite some time and neither really have the means to “keep up” with these spaces. And then of course by 2020 I was the country already Internet access so I really lost touch during

idk im try not to come off as messy lol I’m just curious

this post is semi male centered so I’m not really sure if this is OK to post. but y’all know how I feel about the rest of Reddit and I also don’t post it in a forum that this person might accidentally come across it if it blows up because you know video game nerds love Reddit

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hello, I’ve been streaming on Twitch for a about 2 1/2 years but over the past year is when I really start to blow up and gain some traction. Twitch is not my full-time job, but I make enough to have a payout every month and I definitely have a great community who show up for me on Twitch and in Discord. Some of them stream as well, and I rarely ever miss a stream by them.

About two months ago, this person name Red joined, my community, and he has been pretty cool as well. He doesn’t stream. But he shows up talks and supports. He’s never said or done anything disrespectful to me and he integrates well into my community, even following some of the other streamers.

The issue is, he has a habit of flirting with the men in my community. I don’t think he actually likes them or has a crush on them nor do I actually think he is trolling them but honestly, I don’t know what the reason is. If I had to guess, I think it would be a more progressive form of friendship where other men dote on each other call each other handsome and sexy send heart eyes and gifs to each other and basically do all the things that girls do and no one bats an eye or questions their sexuality.

So because of this, I don’t know whether to write it off or say something especially because none of the guys have come forward and complained. They either ignore it or some people have actively started to return the compliments they don’t go as far as to send heart eyes and kissing faces but they’ll now address each other ass hey handsome and have a playful rivalry going on with the girls. and when he joins their stream, they seem excited that he is around.

The reason I feel conflicted is because while I am pretty hands off with my community as long as they aren’t disrespecting me or other people, making anybody uncomfortable or putting anyone in danger than I tend to let them do their own thing, especially if it’s outside of my stream. we are all grown adults over the age of 21. But I know if this was a guy acting like this towards women I would have pulled him aside and told him to chill out a little bit.

especially because I recently had a guy aggressively, flirting with this girl who was new in my community as well as she ended up, blocking him and me.And leaving. He approached her in private, but if she had told me he was making her feel uncomfortable. I would have definitely kicked him out, but it seems like she thought since he was there first he was more important. I only know about this because the guy came to me to “gossip” about the situation and pay her out to be a bad guy when you can clearly see from his recap and messages that he was making her uncomfortable. I ended up getting rid of him because other women who stream have also had a problem with him being too pushy and flirtatious. So it’s not like my worry comes from nowhere.

I’m just worried that I’m either not speaking up for my community enough or that I will speak up, but no one actually has a problem with it and now I’ve lost a very kind person to have around. I was thinking about reaching out to some of the guys probably to see how they feel about everything and ask them if they would like me to say something. But to me, it’s also like you’re a man stick up for yourself. I know we as women would be afraid to turn down or reject someone or call someone out just because of the things we have to deal with off-line and online, but I feel like men don’t really have issue calling out other for being gay or disclosing that they are not homosexual so the fact that they have not done that feels like they don’t care or maybe they do but they know it’s my friend so they’re trying not to be disrespectful to my space

also, speaking of being gay, none of the other men that he flirts with have ever displayed any homo, erotic tendencies and actively talk about dating women wanting a relationship and being straight. So I don’t know if they are trying not to come up as homophobic, but I feel like gay men who still flirt with straight men I just as disrespectful. however, it could be flirting or like I said it could be that breaking of gender norms, and just a more affectionate male friend friendship.

Anyways, I’m just curious about how you all would handle this situation. It almost feels like meddling but as the streamer I do feel like it’s my responsibility to say something an advocate for people in my space who watch me. as you can see, I’m very conflicted and for every reason I have to do. I have a reason not to do and there is a lot of nuance to look at. I don’t think there will be any harm in getting involved if I reach out to the Man privately, but maybe I should continue to sit it out and see if they handle it on their own if it’s even something worth handling.

this post is semi male centered so I’m not really sure if this is OK to post. but y’all know how I feel about the rest of Reddit and I also don’t post it in a forum that this person might accidentally come across it if it blows up because you know video game nerds love Reddit

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hello, I’ve been streaming on Twitch for a about 2 1/2 years but over the past year is when I really start to blow up and gain some traction. Twitch is not my full-time job, but I make enough to have a payout every month and I definitely have a great community who show up for me on Twitch and in Discord. Some of them stream as well, and I rarely ever miss a stream by them.

About two months ago, this person name Red joined, my community, and he has been pretty cool as well. He doesn’t stream. But he shows up talks and supports. He’s never said or done anything disrespectful to me and he integrates well into my community, even following some of the other streamers.

The issue is, he has a habit of flirting with the men in my community. I don’t think he actually likes them or has a crush on them nor do I actually think he is trolling them but honestly, I don’t know what the reason is. If I had to guess, I think it would be a more progressive form of friendship where other men dote on each other call each other handsome and sexy send heart eyes and gifs to each other and basically do all the things that girls do and no one bats an eye or questions their sexuality.

So because of this, I don’t know whether to write it off or say something especially because none of the guys have come forward and complained. They either ignore it or some people have actively started to return the compliments they don’t go as far as to send heart eyes and kissing faces but they’ll now address each other ass hey handsome and have a playful rivalry going on with the girls. and when he joins their stream, they seem excited that he is around.

The reason I feel conflicted is because while I am pretty hands off with my community as long as they aren’t disrespecting me or other people, making anybody uncomfortable or putting anyone in danger than I tend to let them do their own thing, especially if it’s outside of my stream. we are all grown adults over the age of 21. But I know if this was a guy acting like this towards women I would have pulled him aside and told him to chill out a little bit.

especially because I recently had a guy aggressively, flirting with this girl who was new in my community as well as she ended up, blocking him and me.And leaving. He approached her in private, but if she had told me he was making her feel uncomfortable. I would have definitely kicked him out, but it seems like she thought since he was there first he was more important. I only know about this because the guy came to me to “gossip” about the situation and pay her out to be a bad guy when you can clearly see from his recap and messages that he was making her uncomfortable. I ended up getting rid of him because other women who stream have also had a problem with him being too pushy and flirtatious. So it’s not like my worry comes from nowhere.

I’m just worried that I’m either not speaking up for my community enough or that I will speak up, but no one actually has a problem with it and now I’ve lost a very kind person to have around. I was thinking about reaching out to some of the guys probably to see how they feel about everything and ask them if they would like me to say something. But to me, it’s also like you’re a man stick up for yourself. I know we as women would be afraid to turn down or reject someone or call someone out just because of the things we have to deal with off-line and online, but I feel like men don’t really have issue calling out other for being gay or disclosing that they are not homosexual so the fact that they have not done that feels like they don’t care or maybe they do but they know it’s my friend so they’re trying not to be disrespectful to my space

also, speaking of being gay, none of the other men that he flirts with have ever displayed any homo, erotic tendencies and actively talk about dating women wanting a relationship and being straight. So I don’t know if they are trying not to come up as homophobic, but I feel like gay men who still flirt with straight men I just as disrespectful. however, it could be flirting or like I said it could be that breaking of gender norms, and just a more affectionate male friend friendship.

Anyways, I’m just curious about how you all would handle this situation. It almost feels like meddling but as the streamer I do feel like it’s my responsibility to say something an advocate for people in my space who watch me. as you can see, I’m very conflicted and for every reason I have to do. I have a reason not to do and there is a lot of nuance to look at. I don’t think there will be any harm in getting involved if I reach out to the Man privately, but maybe I should continue to sit it out and see if they handle it on their own if it’s even something worth handling.

Unemployed, working part time, or streamers who stream full time and thats it. Basically anyone is isn’t clocking in for 6-12 hours a day for 4+ days a week then coming home to stream what do u do when you aren't on stream? im just curious of how you spend your free time and hopefully find some things to do other than work stream and lay in bed

Hi all this is my first build after a week of researching (stalking this sub and binging instagram) what a cyber deck is and does. I think I want to start with a small one use deck that kind of functions as a hand held video game.

I want to to able to upload a python code for my choose your own adventure game thats basically a story game where u choose option 1 2 or 3 and maybe type In an answer or two and the screen has the text art and story. MAYBE some music on loop in the background.

so I would need

the brain

the screen

a keyboard

maybe speakers and volume scroller.

connectors, wires, etc.

I cant solder so I wouldn't mind minihdmi hookups and such and I dont want to use a touch screen. Mainly im wondering what brain I should use for it because I dont want anything too powerful when all im going is uploading this small game but Im not sure what would be best

me and this guy were dating on and off from 2022-2024 he was abusive but i stayed even after court. finally i woke up and left him alone. from time to time he will email me and it goes to my spam cuz google doesnt just automatically delete blocked emails for whatever reason

I’ve been applying for jobs so I make it a habit to check my junk folder and I saw that this past Sunday he had emailed me twice Once just saying a general message about how he missed me and then the other one had a song attached (is a musician) that he said was inspired by me

Now a month ago, a girl randomly followed me on Instagram and after a week of just casual talking, she asked could she get my opinion on Something. I do poetry and marketing and I live in a fairly artsy city and the girl also does poetry so initially I thought it had something to do with a creative endeavor

Well, turns out what she actually wanted was to let me know that my ex had gotten her pregnant and she was on the fence about keeping the baby. She spent about an hour on the phone talking to me, giving me details and she didn’t say anything about him being physically abusive but she did mention that he pulled a gun on her while she was at her job and they were arguing

I already Told his parents and my parents that he is still contacting me and I will go to the police if he keeps bothering me, but I’m also wondering if I should tell his baby mama too because I don’t think she wanted to get rid of the baby actually and i have a suspicion that she is still talking to him.

I’m wondering if I should reach back out to her and let her know that he is still sending me messages. if she is not talking to him, but he tries to get back with her too, she will know that he is still out here messaging his exes from years ago. And if they are still talking, she can make a decision accordingly, but at least she will

or if I should just Leave it alone and let her figure it out herself. My ex can be a crash out, but he hasn’t tried to contact me since I told on him to his parents, but I don’t know how he would react to me telling her. I also would expect her to not mention that I Gave her a heads up, but you know how that goes. If I was in her shoes, I would want to know, but I’m wondering if it’s worth the risk of creating a situation for myself

but I feel wrong for sitting on this information and not saying anything