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I (27F) got engaged to my fiancé “Ryan” (29M) last year after almost 6 years together. We’ve been planning our wedding for months and finally locked down our dream venue after being on a waitlist forever. It’s this gorgeous greenhouse-style place that books out more than a year in advance.

My younger sister “Claire” (25F) has always needed to be the center of attention. Birthdays, graduations, holidays somehow every event becomes about her. My parents usually tell me to “be patient because that’s just how she is.”

When Ryan proposed, Claire barely congratulated us. Instead she kept joking that she was “still waiting for her turn.” I brushed it off.

A few months later, my parents hosted a big engagement dinner for me and Ryan. Both families were there, including my grandparents who traveled several hours to come.

Halfway through dinner, Claire suddenly stood up, tapped her wine glass, and announced that HER boyfriend had proposed earlier that day. Everyone went quiet for a second because people genuinely thought she was making a toast for us.

Then she pulls out a ring and starts crying while her boyfriend hugs her.

The rest of the night completely shifted. People crowded around her, asked about her ring, wedding plans, dates, etc. My future MIL later apologized to me because she noticed I barely got to talk at my own engagement dinner.

I was upset, but I didn’t want drama, so I just let it go.

Fast forward to now. Claire recently started wedding planning and discovered that the venue Ryan and I booked was her “dream venue” too. The problem is that they can’t afford it for the year they want unless they get one of the discounted dates… which happens to be MY date.

Apparently she asked the venue if transfers were possible before even talking to me.

Last week she came over and asked if I would “consider giving her the booking.

I laughed because I honestly thought she was joking.

She wasn’t.

I told her absolutely not. We already paid deposits, booked vendors around the venue, and sent save-the-dates.

Then my mom called me saying maybe I should consider helping her and i shouldn't overthink it

Now Claire is telling relatives I’m selfish and “holding the venue hostage out of spite.”

My aunt even texted me saying, “A good sister would compromise.”

The thing is… I feel like I HAVE compromised my entire life when it comes to Claire. She hijacked my engagement dinner and now wants my actual wedding too.

Ryan says we should ignore everyone and keep our plans. But part of me wonders if I’m being stubborn because I’m still hurt about the engagement dinner.

AITAH?