Some people fall in love fast, others take a long time. I wonder, what makes you fall in love with a person? Is it how much you have in common, how well you get along, etc?
I personally know I love someone when I feel like if needed, I would give my life up for them(which usually takes me a while.) How do you guys know?
Not sure if anyone who’s been in a similar situation could help me out. I’m in a very controlling, emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically abusive relationship and not sure how to leave?
I can leave in the sense that he’s not forcing me to stay. I can’t leave because I don’t have enough self respect and because deep down I do love him. Any advice?
I’ve been in a relationship before where the man claimed I made him so miserable by looking in his phone often and finding that he’s still talking to women he’s been physically intimate with, exes, etc. Claims he loved me and cared about me more than any other woman but still partakes in that shady behavior. Why do people cheat when you can just leave and be a happy camper with the other person you’re cheating with?
an altercation between my on -and off boyfriend and i. this all occurred because his brother asked if i could apple pay him money in exchange for cash and i didn’t tell him about it. No exaggeration. This isn’t even the worst of it this is actually him calm. I know i’m stupid. i know i should leave him but i hate being the one that has to leave knowing i genuinely did nothing wrong; but the blame is always on me. Anyone else that’s been in one of these relationships have any advice on how to go peacefully?
I am (F22) and my boyfriend is (M25) We had a toxic on and off relationship for a while , and had a breakup for about a month and a half-2 months.
My boyfriend is the type (or at least used to be) that when we would have our short term breakups, he moves on fast. Sexually, emotionally, etc.
I guess during our last breakup which was around the beginning of january 2026, and we rekindled early march, he had a new “fling” if you will.
I could tell just based off of social media hints who the girl was about 2 months ago. and i reached out to her asking if they were involved with eachother because i had been staying with him again everyday.
the girl and i ended up having about an hour conversation telling me that she was staying over there with him for weeks before he left out the country for his job. that they were sexually intimate, that they were on the phone for hours a day, etc. she made it really seem like they were almost dating. after we found out about each other, we both reached out to him and he essentially told me sorry but we were broken up and that she doesn’t really mean nothing to him.
i let it go. i did feel bad for the girl at first because i know personally how he sells dreams, and he essentially led her on.
a few weeks after that, i noticed she was still texting his phone and i addressed him about it. he said he was still only responding briefly to her because he didnt want her to feel bad. i told him i understood to an extent, but that it makes me feel bad that he’s still in contact with her and that it would be easier if he just told her what was going on so she wouldn’t be led on anymore. he agreed.
basically, i guess she was still obsessed and kept texting him. i text her again on my own and basically told her what the deal was , but i tried being as respectful as possible. basically told her like i’m sorry he led you on but we’re basically back together now and to respect that. she went on to say that she doesn’t think we’re together so she can do as she pleases because he’s “single”.
That really angered me. To the point i stalk her instagram everyday constantly looking at her stories, reposts, because almost all of them hint they’re about him. Lots of them even essentially talk about how she’s fine with being a side chick, that no girl can get her off a man, etc.
And it really bothers me almost to the point of hatred. because as a girl who says she’s been hurt before in past relationships, you’d think she’d understand that it’s quite odd to interfere or consistently persevere yourself to associate with a man who’s already involved with someone else.
I try not to have any hated in my heart. and i’m a believer, so i pray to Hod often about it to heal my heart from the hatred, and heal hers as well. but she just overall seems like a nasty girl who cannot take a hint.
do i sound un-empathetic? Like i get she feels a bit delusional about him because like i said he gets emotionally invested with people fast. and she was a quick rebound so emotions were high.
but just me personally, i would never want to “take a man” from someone else. it’s weird. and there’s too many fish in the sea.
Now I love him to death and despite our ups and downs im not really looking for statements like “leave him” because it’s just not that easy, and because i believe he has changed. I’m really only looking for advice for this particular situation
can any men possibly give me reasons based off any personal experiences as to why she is so obsessed with him after only knowing him so little? is it because he’s possibly still in contact with her?? he says he’s not but she seems to not be able to get over him and they weren’t even dating. it was far too short to do that.
So obviously I’m not delusional enough to dismiss the fact that everybody has their own type. But I feel like most men can come to an agreement on what the “perfect” body is to them personally if such exists. I have a boyfriend (M25) I’m a (F22) and i noticed most if not all women that my boyfriend has been sexually involved with in his past are a lot slimmer than me. Give or take a couple “bigger/thicker” women.
When we first started dating a few years ago I was a more on the slim side. 5’6 150 lbs. My weight fluctuates a lot so I go from slim, to thick often. Thick as in a bit of stomach fat, most fat going towards my butt, legs, arms.
We recently had a conversation about our weight randomly, and he said that he wants to “see me bigger” as in about 200+ lbs. and thinks i would look good. Now I’m 180 lbs. Which I found odd because like I said most women he’s been with are a LOT slimmer than me maybe around the 110-150 range.
Does it seem odd? Not sure if there’s a weird motive behind this, or if he just genuinely thinks that.