u/CommunicationIcy9840

Hey people wBPD.

Firstly I’m sorry you have this condition, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

I just want to ask a couple of questions, please.

1. When you split/discard - do you know some of your actions are destructive and do it anyway? Or is it uncontrollable?

2. Do you hate the person you’re discarding? Or something else?

3. What made you go back to the person you discarded. If you did go back…?

4. What’s the most extreme thing you’ve done? (Mine blocked me on everything, and called police for harassment (over 1 message - after 2 weeks of silence).

If there’s anything else you’d like to add to help understand better. I’d love to hear it.

Thank you.

Hi all,

So from what I’ve been reading, I was the FP for a quiet BPD woman. It was very intense, a lot of support and reassurance over the years. I even felt suffocated at some points, but I was still there for her. She was quite possessive over me too.

Anyway, I say all that to say….

We had a falling out when she lied to me about something, and when I told her I know the truth. She first begged me to forgive her, to which I said I’m unsure if I can. And then overnight disappeared. Full block(expect insta), and became close to one of our ex colleagues(male), who believes I’m a monster now too.

I chased her for a day or two. Then I went silent for 2 weeks too, since she was stonewalling me. Since I wasn’t blocked on insta, I sent a message to just check in, and hope she was okay(and leave the door open for communication).For that she called the police on me for harassment. Officer was reasonable and just said don’t contact her again, and I said I won’t. (Now I’m blocked on insta too).

What’s all this about? Isn’t this kinda extreme over being called out for lying?

I’d love your advice and if anyone has been in a similar situation. Please.

I worked with a lady for 4 years, who came to me for help and advice on a regular basis. With everyday things and also important things in her personal life. I was happy to help someone who I felt like needed it. She would message me at all times of the day and night, and honestly, she relied on me a lot.

We became quite close friends, where she would tell me a lot of things about herself and her family, etc.

We had a falling out, when she lied to me about something but at the same time expected me to help with it. So I just said, I don’t want to be involved.

She messaged all night asking not to cut her off or be less involved. She asked me not to abandon her, but I wasn’t hearing it.

Now I’m blocked, and can’t communicate with her. She’s telling people nasty things about me, and she has made a new ‘friend’ who is emotionally supporting her re our falling out.

I was her favourite person, but I’m not anymore I think. Overnight I haven’t heard from her for 3 weeks.

Can anyone explain what happened, and what they think will happen next? I kinda miss talking to her 😅