Any advice on how to handle this would be appreciated 🫶
This all takes place around my workplace, I have been with my boyfriend for two years (both in our early 20s)! We met at work five years ago and have been good friends from the beginning but got closer after our first year of uni.
Before leaving for uni a co-worker shared with me ‘in confidence’ (she told everyone else at work) that her and my not at the time boyfriend were ‘talking’, kissed, almost went to bone town etc. The thing with this co-worker is that she is a pathological liar, anything that she says is taken as a grain of salt. But the thing is, he actually had a girlfriend at that time therefore is literally not possible (he’s an awesome dude would not cheat).
She definitely had a thing for him for a while, she would basically be his shadow every shift, make jokes at other girls expenses (especially mine- she once gave me a concussion when trying to show off her rugby skills on me in front of him which entailed me getting thrown into a wall- but my now bf ended up having to first aid me lol 🙃) I thought this would end after she got into a relationship but it’s somehow just gotten so much worse. I was told that she was making rumours about her and my bf sleeping together two days before we did so on and so on (now writing this I’m realising this is pretty impossible as we spent most of the day together). I obviously spoke to my boyfriend and he denied it and asked her not politely to say the least to stop spreading false rumours.
Every time I think I’m over it I walk into work and see her and I just get really annoyed and a bit upset too that someone is going to such extreme lengths to disturb our peace. I have complete trust in my boyfriend it’s just more of the fact that she’s constantly saying something about us.
For more context she claims to ‘be close’ or has ‘been talking’ to every guy at work, so why is she doubling down on my relationship? I unfortunately am not a nonchalant girly and do take everything personally, my boyfriend is the opposite he can brush off things and just not think about stuff. Me and my boyfriend are obviously fine but I just don’t know how to handle the workplace with it☹️
Also for additional context, for some reason I treat this girl with upmost kindness, she clearly does have issues and I’m also very non confrontational until I am pushed to my limits. I do hold myself together at work visibly but whenever this does happen I am mentally crashing out and have to leave the room!