u/Cold_Vanilla9791

My therapist had never heard about it before, but said that it definitely fits what’s been happening to me with my ex

At first it was them saying I’m overreacting, then saying I’m the one hurting our relationship by bringing up my pain, then they started taking accountability finally, but said that I’m hurting myself by dwelling on my pain (even tho I was only dwelling on it because nothing had changed or because it hadn’t been enough time for me to heal from it yet) then they started saying I’m the abusive one and said I’m using DARVO because I taught them that word and explained how they are doing that, they couldn’t deny facts after I explained it to them, so they just reused the same words back on me, except I would ask them to explain themself and ofc they never actually had an explanation other than they just “felt manipulated” or something, never any real evidence that I was doing anything they ever said I was doing, and when that stopped working they stopped accusing me of all those things but went behind my back and talked shit about me instead, cus I wasn’t listening so maybe they could get sympathy from others and make themself look like the victim instead, the even admitted to lying to them for sympathy

They lied so many times, over and over and over again, they said horrible things about me to their friends, but then claimed the opposite to my face, they told me they needed my help and that I was their one and only, but then their actions said otherwise, even their words sometimes gave them away with how they’d say things, I was always picking up on red flags and then we’d fight about it cus I knew in my gut I was right

Now for the last time, they are trying to convince me they are changed, something they’ve told me so many times before to get me to stay, they are telling me they don’t want this life(something they’ve told me a lot in the past too) and yet they always go back to it, despite knowing they’d lose me because of it, the way they talked about me to their friends showed that they’d be better off without me anyways, and yet they’d always lie to my face and tell me they needed me, I’m done listening to their words

To my ex: I hear your actions loud and clear for once, I’m done being manipulated and tricked by your soft promising words, it’s cruel to play with someone’s heart like that over and over again, only a monster could do what you’ve done to me, and it’s time I see you for what you really are, you chose this life over and over and over again, it’s clearly just who you are, that’s why you hid it from me, that’s why you lied, cus you didn’t want me, you were just afraid to lose me, but I deserve better than a monster who tricks me in staying in their clutches, so go be kinky and poly, you’ve shown me that’s what your really love, it’s not me, the way you treated me can never be called love again, unless it’s a lie like you’ve done so many times to me, your words were never true, you even admitted that, so stop trying to convince me “this one last time is different from all the other lies” cus it never was, I’m done falling for that trick

They lied so many times, over and over and over again, they said horrible things about me to their friends, but then claimed the opposite to my face, they told me they needed my help and that I was their one and only, but then their actions said otherwise, even their words sometimes gave them away with how they’d say things, I was always picking up on red flags and then we’d fight about it cus I knew in my gut I was right

Now for the last time, they are trying to convince me they are changed, something they’ve told me so many times before to get me to stay, they are telling me they don’t want this life(something they’ve told me a lot in the past too) and yet they always go back to it, despite knowing they’d lose me because of it, the way they talked about me to their friends showed that they’d be better off without me anyways, and yet they’d always lie to my face and tell me they needed me, I’m done listening to their words

To my ex: I hear your actions loud and clear for once, I’m done being manipulated and tricked by your soft promising words, it’s cruel to play with someone’s heart like that over and over again, only a monster could do what you’ve done to me, and it’s time I see you fir what you really are, you chose this life over and over and over again, it’s clearly just who you are, that’s why you hid it from me, that’s why you lied, cus you didn’t want me, you were just afraid to lose me, but I deserve better than a monster who tricks me in staying in their clutches, so go be kinky and poly, you’ve shown me that’s what your really love, it’s not me, the way you treated me can never be called love again, unless it’s a lie like you’ve done so many times to me, your words were never true, you even admitted that, so stop trying to convince me “this one last time is different from all the other lies” cus it never was, I’m done falling for that trick