u/ColdOne6774

How come a guy who pursued me first, was extremely interested in me and constantly flirted suddenly become extremely distant and started replying dryly?

I have been talking to a guy for the past month and last week we finally met up and had an extremely good chat. He kept making jokes and we talked for hours until we decided it was getting late. We hugged goodbye and even made plans to hang out the next night. When I got back home, I texted him I had a good time and can’t wait to see him again. He said he had a nice time as well.

We didn’t talk again until the next day in the afternoon, he commented on my new post calling me beautiful but our conversation was just really dry? We were gonna hang out that night but he never came, afterwards he said he had fallen asleep and said he was disappointed. I asked if we should reschedule and he just replied with an emoji?

The past few days his replies have been getting slower and more dry. He still says “good morning beautiful” but then I won’t hear from him until night time. He used to just say he was sleepy but now there isn’t any excuse. Now, I have been left on delivered since the morning yet he is being active on his accounts.

I have never been in a relationship before but I don’t think I’m stupid. It is becoming clear that maybe he just isn’t interested anymore, I just don’t know why he still bothers to say things like “good morning beautiful” and send me memes when he does message me. Maybe he is talking to someone else but doesn’t want to completely get rid of me in case they don’t work out? A hard part about this is the fact I’ve told him I’ve been ghosted and left for another girl before and he said he would never do that.

Sorry if this seems painfully obvious, but I just want advice I guess. Should I just start acting distant as well? If I should be straightforward, I have no idea on what to even say. Thank you to anyone who shares their opinion.

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u/ColdOne6774 — 13 days ago
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Hi everyone,

I (F20) met a guy (M20) on a dating app a few weeks ago and have been talking everyday since. We have been flirty over text, but when we met up for the first time a few days ago we didn’t really flirt. We just kind of talked, which I don’t think is bad since it was the first time.

However, I kinda want him to know that I do like him and I want to know if he likes me. I just have no idea what to do, we are hanging out again in two days and I would really like to maybe flirt in person or even kiss? (That is kind of wishful thinking haha) Some things to note are that we are both pretty shy, and I don’t think he would make the first move even if he did like me.

Side note, we will be hanging out in my dorm next time. I’d like to discuss if he sees this going further, I just don’t know if I should bring it up randomly or if there are good ways to steer the conversation to a flirty manor.

Thanks for any advice!

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u/ColdOne6774 — 16 days ago