u/ColdImpossible1310

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on a weird shift in my relationship.

For the past few months, the main issue was my girlfriend’s extreme possessiveness. I felt like I was being watched constantly,she’d get upset if I didn’t reply immediately, questioned who I was with (even if it was just my guy friends), and generally made me feel suffocated. I’ve been trying to balance my studies and personal goals, and the constant "checking-in" was becoming emotionally draining.

After realizing this wasn’t healthy, I decided to stop "chasing" her reassurance and started setting firm boundaries about my personal space. I told her I needed trust to make this work.

The Current Problem: Immediately after I stood my ground, she flipped. She has gone from 100 to 0. Now, she is completely avoiding me. She doesn’t text, doesn’t call, and gives very cold, one-word energy if I reach out. It feels like since she can no longer "control" my time through questioning, she’s using the silent treatment to make me feel anxious and guilty.

I feel like I’m experiencing emotional whiplash. I wanted space, but this feels like a manipulation tactic to get me to "beg" for her attention again.

how do i handle this?

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on a weird shift in my relationship.

For the past few months, the main issue was my girlfriend’s extreme possessiveness. I felt like I was being watched constantly,she’d get upset if I didn’t reply immediately, questioned who I was with (even if it was just my guy friends), and generally made me feel suffocated. I’ve been trying to balance my studies and personal goals, and the constant "checking-in" was becoming emotionally draining.

After realizing this wasn’t healthy, I decided to stop "chasing" her reassurance and started setting firm boundaries about my personal space. I told her I needed trust to make this work.

The Current Problem: Immediately after I stood my ground, she flipped. She has gone from 100 to 0. Now, she is completely avoiding me. She doesn’t text, doesn’t call, and gives very cold, one-word energy if I reach out. It feels like since she can no longer "control" my time through questioning, she’s using the silent treatment to make me feel anxious and guilty.

I feel like I’m experiencing emotional whiplash. I wanted space, but this feels like a manipulation tactic to get me to "beg" for her attention again.

how do i handle this?