I (30F) have been seeing a guy (25M) for a few months, and things have started to feel off. In the beginning, our intimacy was normal and enjoyable, but over time he began introducing more intense sexual talk. At first, it was him mentioning the idea of other people watching us. Then it progressed to him talking about watching me with another man, and eventually suggesting a threesome. Lately, it’s gone even further he wants detailed conversations about what another guy would look like and do, including things involving him as well. The last time we were intimate, he told me outright that he wanted to have sex with the other guy and asked me to pretend I was that person. He also wanted me to talk about my past partners in explicit ways. It made me really uneasy, but I didn’t say anything in the moment and kind of just went along with it. What’s confusing is that outside of sex, he’s actually very jealous and doesn’t want me with other men at all. As soon as we’re done, that kind of talk is completely off-limits, like it never happened. I don’t think this is about judging his sexuality it’s more about how all of this developed and how uncomfortable it’s making me feel. I’m starting to think I should stop seeing him, but I’m unsure if I’m overthinking things.
Has anyone dealt with something like this before?
Edit:
To add more context, none of this is discussed ahead of time he brings it up in the middle of sex rather than communicating about it beforehand. I was okay with some level of sexual talk before, and I do share certain kinks, but this crossed a line for me. What really made me uncomfortable was when he started talking about actually wanting to have sex with another man and then asked me to pretend I was that man. He even said that what he was doing with me is how he would want to do it with the guy. It caught me completely off guard. Since we were already in the middle of it, I didn't feel like I could pause and process everything, so I went along with it in the moment.
After he finished, he pushed me aside, which didn't sit right with me. I was planning to bring it up, but he completely shut down. Now I can't even talk to him about it because he's blocked me. This is something he's done before he usually unblocks me later and acts like nothing happened, expecting me to just move on.