I’d like to preface this with I have no issue with my husband watching -spicy videos-
i am currently 8 weeks postpartum, first child with my spouse of 6 years-and i’m at a loss.
In year one, i found photos he’d taken of his Cousins Wife’s ass. As well as polaroid pictures of his best friend’s wife in the shower-that he found while house sitting.
Obviously none of them know (the best friend , cousin or the wives) which makes it even more uncomfortable because they all look at him like a brother and I know they would be very uncomfortable.
I gave him a second chance and never really looked through his phone ever again.
While Pregnant (approx. 5 months ago) i had a crazy cheating dream and went through his phone, i found pictures of selfies the best friend‘s wife sent him on Snapchat that he had secretly screen recorded with an app.
Innocent photos, just random conversations but also photos he had secretly taken- of her just standing around in a room, fully clothed & i was soooo confused.
why did he have these random photos?
I threatened to leave him (we don’t fight, so he seemed to believed me and promised nothing was going on and i would never find something on his phone ever again)
Today i found out WHY those “innocent” photos were on his phone.
He has been using an AI app to turn these photos into nude photos, and videos of her.
Now i would like to think he’s just obsessed with her, but i have found so many toys, and other things that just make me believe he’s an addict..
I used to think we were very open about all of our interests.
other than this situation that has occurred three times now, our relationship is almost picture. Perfect we’ve never had any issues.
To me this is 3 strikes you’re out, but after 6 years together and now we have a NEWBORN.
What are my options??