u/Classic-Reporter-697

I'm not sure why this is happening or how, but for the last couple of months I haven't been able to handle one clamp per nipple. I can only instead handle one clamp on one nipple, not two nipples clamped at once. I've been using these clamps for about four years and only now it has started to change. I do still use both as I don't want to talk to my dom about it to potentially disappoint him. Will my tolerance ever go back to normal? These are binder clamps and I've used them since I got into BDSM, my friend did warn me about never putting stuff not meant for body use on your body. I just wish my tolerance was better again, I can handle things like gut punching, whipping, etc. just fine. Is there anything I can do? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you (I'm a man if that's relevant)

I'm 19m and I have been chatting with a guy on Grindr who is 35 and we are planning to hook up some time soon. He's seen my self harm scars and haven't made any comments on them, which is nice. Though, I'm wondering if it's still ok to hook up with him if I recently relapsed. I haven't told him or anything, I don't want to make him uncomfortable as I don't know him that well. Though, I'm afraid that not telling him beforehand will make it worse. We are as well quite kinky, I'm a masochist, he's a sadist. My masochism is very different to self harm as intents differ though. Thank you in advance, sorry if this isn't much information