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my 15 month old can eat— apparently because at daycare they say he eats a lot but at home he just plays with his food and doesn’t eat anything. how do i redirect him? i am a FTM and kind of frustrating when he likes the food but wont eat it. he will throw the food on the ground or spread it around his high chair table.

i have tried to take the food away— he laughs then cries then i tell him “throw bad, food eat” like caveman talk

i also tried smaller portions — still throws it and laughs

tried utensils — throws the utensils and says “uh oh” or shrugs “what happened”

he still uses bottles too but i’ve been limiting it to only a bedtime one. he is super hungry but just wants to play… his weight has gone down and im getting concerned

TL;DR: snooped through my bf phone and found him lusting over women and i need help to confront him but don’t want to tell him i snooped through his stuff.

so we have been together for about 2-3 years, i’m not sure because we were just fwb before an actual relationship. we have had ups and downs before like any normal couple duh. we also have a 1yr old together. i have still been struggling with PPD and i don’t put myself together as i used to. i’m fatter, uglier, just all around not what i used to before motherhood. i snooped through his phone the other day because i was curious to see what was on it.. wasn’t expecting to find anything because we haven’t had a rough patch in a while. i found on snapchat him swiping up on girls story’s saying they’re pretty, another chat asking one where she stayed at, and the one that topped it off is he hearted a girls story’s just asking who got money and a big 🍆 (gross).. she was like a s*x influencer…

after seeing these, i literally got so sad and felt so disgusted with him and myself. i feel like if i worked on myself then he wouldn’t feel like he had to lust after other women. i do a lot for him and he does a lot for me but i felt like we were in a good place.. i guess not. how do i confront him about this? he hates when i go through his stuff so he would get upset at me for doing it but im the one who should be upset because of what i found… lol