u/Clarissalayton

The constant stress and tension and pressure makes you sick. It doesnt let you think straight. it disrupts your sleep. It makes you nervous. It makes you tired. It makes you agitated and angry. It increases your blood pressure. It makes your immune system weak and more vulnerable to diseases.

How exactly are you to navigate life, when you are constantly under pressure? How are you to work hard when you are constantly exhausted? How to make smart decisions when you cant think straight? How not to be overly agressive at anyone who does you wrong, when you have to take everything at home? How to havy any self confidence or drive to better yourself when you are constantly demoralized, gaslighted and kept down.

Im sure we all have experienced this. Tell a friend or acquaintance what N-Parents did to you and its:

"Im sure your parents love you"

"They made mistakes. Thats just human"

"Im sure they tried their best"

"Im sure you were a difficlut child"

"It must have been hard for them as well"

"They might have been difficult. We all have our faults. Dont be so hard on them"

People/Society demand understanding and make up excuses for their actions. And what do we get? Victim blaming.

Mostly something like:

" You are exaggerating."

"You made bad life choices"

"Stop feeling sorry for yourself"

"You should have just done "random impractical/bad advice"

"If it was really so hard you should have just left them and become homeless"

"You should have stood up to them. I would have never tolerated this"

"You cant blame them forever. Take responsibility for your life".

We were kids. Parents abused us and fucked us up. They then get the benefit of the doubt. Not us. We get blamed. Its crazy.

How was anything my fault when I was trapped in the middle of nowhere and they refused to drive me?

When they constantly yelled and punished and attacked me?

When they gaslighted us into awkward, immature, wrecks with 0 self confidence or drive because they made us constantly question and doubt our self worth, intelligence and sanity by "remembering things differently" by claiming with absolute confidence that things that were wrong were right?

How was I to navigate life when they gave me bad advice and didnt teach me anything?

How was I to suceed in life when they were so loud that I couldnt sleep until 1 AM, couldnt learn, couldnt concentrate, couldnt think straight?

When I had no energy and my priority NR 1 was just surviving the abuse and getting some peace and good time?

People who have good parents, or at least average ones, who actually help and support them, don’t realize how easy their lives are.

And its absolutely crazy and infuriating that for some reason, they mostly side with N-Parents and make up excuses for them, while blaming us who had to deal with their abuse.

I had narcissistic parents. They were pretty awful. Maybe a 7 out of 10. There are people who had it much worse than I did, but what I went through was hard enough to ruin my life.

I lived in the middle of nowhere. In a small village with about 200 people. There was almost no public transportation there. The nearest major city was 15 miles away. And my parents refused to drive me anywhere. I had no internet, no library, no friends, nothing. It was a 2 mile walk to the next train station.

They constantly yelled at me, manipulated me, and told me I was worthless. They destroyed my self-confidence and turned me into a shy and frightened person.

They wouldn’t let me sleep. My father watched TV with the volume turned up loud every night until 1 a.m. I had to get up at 6 a.m. So most nights I slept no more than 5 hours.

I didn’t get any help from them. Instead, they just put obstacles in my way. So I didn’t do well in school, and I didn’t have any friends because I was weird, shy, and withdrawn.

I was immature, behaving like a 15 year old when I was 25. This also ruined my life. I was afraid from authority. I was afraid to fail because it meant punishment. I was always angry and confrontational. If I had to take all that Sh*t at home I wouldnt take anything from anyone else. This also ruined lots of possiblities for me.

Because of that, I have a bad job now and suffer from sleep disorders.

People who have good parents, or at least average ones, who actually help and support them, don’t realize how easy their lives are.

But what chance did I have? None. I was abused and poor. And then nasty asshole people who had it easy in life dare to victim blame you for "making bad choices" in life. And tell you to "stop feeling sorry for yourself" or tell you that the first 20 or 25 or 30 years "dont matter". I hate these ignorant stupid assholes so much. And I hate that the deck was stacked against me right from the start, while others who were less intelligent or competent got handed a Royal Flush.

I had narcissistic parents. They were pretty awful. Maybe a 7 out of 10. There are people who had it much worse than I did, but what I went through was hard enough to ruin my life.

I lived in the middle of nowhere. In a small village with about 200 people. There was almost no public transportation there. The nearest major city was 15 miles away. And my parents refused to drive me anywhere. I had no internet, no library, no friends, nothing. It was a 2 mile walk to the next train station.

They constantly yelled at me, manipulated me, and told me I was worthless. They destroyed my self-confidence and turned me into a shy and frightened person.

They wouldn’t let me sleep. My father watched TV with the volume turned up loud every night until 1 a.m. I had to get up at 6 a.m. So most nights I slept no more than 5 hours.

I didn’t get any help from them. Instead, they just put obstacles in my way. So I didn’t do well in school, and I didn’t have any friends because I was weird, shy, and withdrawn.

I was immature, behaving like a 15 year old when I was 25. This also ruined my life. I was afraid from authority. I was afraid to fail because it meant punishment. I was always angry and confrontational. If I had to take all that Sh*t at home I wouldnt take anything from anyone else. This also ruined lots of possiblities for me.

Because of that, I have a bad job now and suffer from sleep disorders.

People who have good parents, or at least average ones, who actually help and support them, don’t realize how easy their lives are.

But what chance did I have? None. I was abused and poor. And then nasty asshole people who had it easy in life dare to victim blame you for "making bad choices" in life. And tell you to "stop feeling sorry for yourself" or tell you that the first 20 or 25 or 30 years "dont matter". I hate these ignorant stupid assholes so much. And I hate that the deck was stacked against me right from the start, while others who were less intelligent or competent got handed a Royal Flush.

There is a new trend out there. On Tik Tok, Youtube and other social media. People supposedly reading hundreds of books a year. Like 300 or 400 or 500. The sky is the limit. One Tik Toker I saw claimed that she has read 541 books last year.

People will not believe you anyways because these numbers sound like outright lies and exaggerations. So why brag or lie on social media if at least half the people wont believe it anyways? Why brag at all?

Even if someone managed to read 300 or 400 books a year, practically all of them would have to be light and short books of some 100-200 page lenght. No classics or complicated books. No non fiction books. No long 300+ page books. And whats the point to read 300 Mangas, Comics, Graphic Novels, light romance, crime, young adult novels in a year? Day after day after day? Nonstop for the entire year? But not a single book about phylosophy or history or a long classic like the Hyperion novels or Quo Vadis?

Just lying about completing impossible reading challenges to gain views and attention.

Včera jsem napsala příspěvek o špatných rodičích.Měla jsem otce závislého na televizi, který se téměř každou noc díval až do jedné hodiny v noci.

Byl nedoslýchavý a sledoval televizi s hlasitostí asi 70 decibelů. Extra jsem si koupila měřič a změřila jsem to.

Nemohla jsem tedy jít spát před 1 hodinou ráno, protože jsem bydlela ve starém domě, kde stěny moc neizolovaly.

Někteří uživatelé pak tvrdili, že jsem si měla prostě vzít špunty do uší a chrániče sluchu a spát s nimi a že si nemám stěžovat. Tady ty hlašky:

"Ale tys mohla jít spát. Jenom tam řvala ta televize. Furt existují špunty do uší, mít sluchátka na hlavě atd..."

"Ty tady fňukáš, že jsi oběť hlasitý televize."

Samozřejmě jsem to zkusila, ale ani staré stěny + špunty do uší + sluchátka nesnížily těch 70 decibelů snad ani na 50. Kromě toho byly například v akčních filmech vždy výbuchy nebo hlasité scény, které přesahovaly 70 decibelů.

Jsou tito uživatelé prostě jen úplní idioti? Nebo byste mohli spát při hlasité televizi s nepříjemnými špunty do uší/sluchátky?

Německo přijalo v letech 2010–2025 přibližně 3,6 milionu uprchlíků.

Francie a Velká Británie zhruba 1–1,5 milionu.

Rakousko 500 000.

A to bez Ukrajinců.

Tito uprchlíci pocházejí ze zemí vzdálených tisíce kilometrů. Ze Sýrie. Z Afghánistánu. Z Indie. Z Maroka. Z Nigérie. Téměř nikdo není vyhoštěn. Ani ti, kteří páchají trestnou činnost. Uprchlíci si pak po 10 nebo 15 letech vybojují právo na pobyt a dokonce i občanství.

Přinášejí s sebou vysokou kriminalitu a jsou zátěží pro trh s bydlením a zdravotní systém.

Představte si, že by se kromě Ukrajinců v letech 2010–2025 do Česka pod záminkou azylu přistěhovalo dalších 400 000 nebo 500 000 Syřanů, Afghánců, Iráčanů, Indů,Nigerijců atd.

Zátěž a náklady pro naši zemi by byly nepředstavitelné.

Tento příliv se navíc nezastaví, protože populace Afriky a Asie v příštích 50 letech vzroste o 2–3 miliardy lidí.

Bez ochrany evropských hranic a deportace mnoha těch, kteří již v Evropě jsou, to proto nepůjde.

Proč to západní Evropané tolerují a prakticky nikoho nevyhošťují a nechrani sve a Evropské hranice?

A nemluvím o těch drama queens z YouTubu nebo TikToku, co fňukají, protože jim rodiče koupili „špatné“ auto, nebo jim řekli, že jsou tlustí a že by se měli zdravě stravovat a cvičit.

Mluvím o týrajících/narcistických rodičích, kteří svým dětem zničili život.

Já měla narcistické rodiče. Byli dost hrozní, asi na stupnici 7/10. Jsou lidé, kteří to měli mnohem horší než já, ale to, čím jsem prošla, bylo už tak dost těžké na to, aby mi to zničilo život.

- Žila jsem uprostřed ničeho. V malé vesnici s asi 200 lidmi. Téměř tam nejezdila veřejná doprava. Nejbližší větší město bylo 20 kilometrů daleko. A rodiče mě odmítali kamkoli odvézt. Neměla jsem internet, knihovnu,kamaradky nic. Pěšky to bylo k vlaku 3 kilometry.

- Neustále na mě křičeli, manipulovali se mnou, říkali mi, že jsem k ničemu. Zničili mi sebevědomí a udělali ze mě plachého a vystrašeného člověka.

- Nenechali mě spát. Můj otec každou noc do jedné hodiny ráno sledoval hlasitě televizi. Musela jsem vstávat v 6 ráno. Takže jsem většinu nocí spala nanejvýš 5 hodin.

- Od nich jsem nedostala žádnou pomoc. Místo toho mi jen kladli překážky. Takže mi nešlo ve škole, neměla jsem žádné kamarádky, protože jsem byla divná, plachá a uzavřená.

Kvůli tomu mám teď špatnou práci a trpím poruchami spánku.

Lidé, kteří mají dobré rodiče,nebo alespoň průměrné, kteří jim skutečně pomáhají a podporují je, neví, jak snadný mají život.

Mám prostě pocit, že společnost toto téma úplně ignoruje. Nebo ti lidé pak vyčítají, že se nesnažíš dost a děláš špatná rozhodnutí. A vlastně je to všechno tvoje vina a jen výmluvy.

New toilets have the 4 or 6 Liter option for flushing. Old ones can use up to 14 Liters to flush. But every old toilet has a mechanism where you can set the water level after refilling. I adjusted mine to half and am now using 7 liters instead of 14.

Just search in youtube "Adjusting toilet tank water level". Its easy and you can do it yourself. Even if you reduce the water level by just 1/3 thats still thousands of liters of water saved for flushing every year.

New toilets have the 4 or 6 Liter option for flushing. Old ones can use up to 14 Liters to flush. But every old toilet has a mechanism where you can set the water level after refilling. I adjusted mine to half and am now using 7 liters instead of 14.

Just search in youtube "Adjusting toilet tank water level". Its easy and you can do it yourself. Even if you reduce the water level by just 1/3 thats still thousands of liters of water saved for flushing every year.

You buy a plastic bottle with water or shampoo or cleaning products, you use it once and then throw it away. Then these plastic bottles have to be molten and remade. This seems like a giant waste of resources. If there were refill options at the supermarket we could decrease plastic bottle production by 80 or even 90%