u/CinnarmonRollup

I’m not usually one to break up with people, but I broke things off with this man of 5 months yesterday. Now i’m … i don’t even know..? I’m crying, wondering if I did the right thing, praying, thinking about him, like.. i don’t know..

A lot of things were good with him. But over the months I was having trouble trusting him, there would be times when he would be, in my opinion, mean or cold, he wasn’t very emotional & rarely ever told me he loved me.. I always asked.. He was secretive, avoidant, & we have different communication styles & ways of living.. there’s more but ultimately all of that lead to a week of me feeling/acting off & overthinking the future of our relationship.. We had a conversation, which lead to no resolution.. as they usually did.. & i still felt, for a lack of a better word, lost.. so I ended things the next day(yesterday)..

So i’m wondering how you, the masses, get over a break up.. or any advice/support would be great actually..
Thank you.. 🙏

As an over thinker, i’m having trouble understanding why every person I talk to always feels the need to say “You’re overthinking” or “stop overthinking” (as if it’s something I can switch on & off…) & it’s in situations where I feel justified in my thoughts & questions.. You do or say something, I react & ask questions about it.. & It’s gotten to a point where i’m made to feel like my “overthinking” is a problem…

So I gotta ask the fellow over thinkers, do you get love? Do you have someone who answers all ur questions, reassures you, & doesn’t tell you you’re overthinking every time u ask something..?
Even to the people on the other side of it.. Is it annoying? a deal breaker? a character flaw? what’re your thoughts too..
Thank u in advance for your perspectives 😞💖

As I realize yet again how alone, broke, & boring I am… Depression kicks in yet again to amplify these thoughts..
I have 2 friends that hang out with eachother more than with me ever.. always third wheeling & getting the back end of updates when it comes to their lives.. & 1 other that supposedly my bestfriend but I never see or talk to her unless I go see or spark the convo.. whenever she’s in town she never lets me know or if I find out it’s hard just to see her…
Even my boyfriend has more people that he talk to on a daily than I do.. that’s what he says.. & his phone is always dinging with notifications..
I feel like a fuckin loser.. It’s hard for me to make friends as I don’t go anywhere… 😔 & I hate being alone so this hurts more than it probably should.
I wonder why I can’t have a bestfriend that I talk to everyday… or a boyfriend that considers me a bestfriend of his… 😔 I hate that I cling onto him because he’s the only one I talk to everyday…
Even at work, no one wants to talk to me unless i’m the one sparking the convo.. Idk man.. maybe it’s just my life i guess.. 😔