u/Chlorophillic

Since I was not active on the internet for the past 2-3 years—I have recently started using it heavily and I think I'm addicted to this app 💀😭—I don't know when this sudden trend influx of Evolutionary Psychology based ideas began to spring all over the internet. I think it had started Post-COVID? But I'm utterly unsure of that. It could also be that it was present for a long time, it is just that it became popular just recently.

I've always had a bad feeling or a slight aversion whenever I came across these class of ideas. They were too male-based or Man-O-spheric (learned this word recently 😁), it exudes toxic energy right of the bat. And because of this I was always miles far from these ideas. Also they sounded women hating, at instances. Also, at this point of time I was not emotionally aware enough. I didn't know that I was avoiding these ideas because of their weird, uncomfortable energy. The speakers of these ideas were also not someone credible (This is important).

Then I saw scientists, psychologists presenting the same idea. This time I engaged with the ideas; I was more emotionally aware (The time gap is roughly 2-2.5years between this and my first encounter with the ideas) I immediately noticed my propensity to run from these ideas and forced myself to engage with them, intellectually. I know I cannot truly—in the sense that—I'm not a psychologist but I think you got what I want to convey. I'd say these ideas left me devastated, I was wrecked. Because the picture evolutionary psychologist paint—with these ideas—is sooooo bleak and grim. It's honestly very depressing also on top of that I was already dealing with other issues so it kinda exacerbated my plight. I'm sure most of use know what those ideas are and what they imply how the human "mating" works. At the time of writing this, I can distingly remember that—it is a memory of January 2026 I would guess—someone else also posted about this and gave a criticism, though it was not academic by any means. When I first saw that I immediately guessed that this person is also dealing with the same issues that I have with evolutionary psychology. So, I missed to mention that because this time these ideas are propagated by academics they are more trustworthyyyyy and they almost present itself as the truth, if you say anything against it you are automatically against science which sounds quite terrifying. This credibility was the most difficult thing to crack here. Because of how it's being presented, it's difficult to outrightly reject it.
I have not written my entire mental journey with this class of ideas here; I have forgotten most of it—if not that then I'm not able to recollect them—and it would be veryyy long post.

Then i somehow stumbled across the panacea for all my evopsch related plight. I watched a video, then—after discovering accurate scientific critique of this field—a series of videos. All of them critiquing evopsch why it's not accurate, by presenting flaws in its research methods. And how it's been used to justify misogyny. I won't lie, I was elated for 3-4 days, ginning like a clown 😭🤣. I was VERY happy. I would recommend you a video it's by Münecat on evolutionary psychology it's good and long enough.

Currently I'm reading Bonded by Love by Paul Eastwick. I got to know about him on the APA Podcast where finding love was being discussed and he told what's the problem with evolutionary psychology's approach he calls it EvoScript. I haven't read that completely just writing here titbits. You can watch these videos and read this if you're someone who want to know about all this and is suffering for this class of ideas.

I want to know how YOU felt when you came across evolutionary psychology. Did you outrightly reject it? or engaged with it and eventually felt sad because of the grim picture it paints.

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