u/Chemistry_Nerd06

I’ve been thinking about learning how to conduct over the summer while I have some free time, but a lot of the online courses or YouTube videos are focused on orchestral conducting rather than choral conducting, so I said I’d ask here instead. So does anyone have any resources they’d recommend for learning specifically choral conducting?

I’ve just found this sub and it really makes me feel seen, I relate very strongly with a lot of the posts. So I think this is the best place to ask about this.

I (19M) have been with my gf (20F) for 2 years now and everything is great. She is emotionally mature, stable, loving, reassuring etc etc. This is really helpful for me especially because I’m autistic and can struggle with being accepted for being myself.

Logically I know that she is an amazing person to have in my life, but my over-analytical mind can’t stop ruminating about the fact that she’s my first girlfriend. To use a scientific explanation, any isolated measurement means nothing without having some baseline to compare it to.
What if I only THINK she’s perfect for me, but actually I’d be happier with someone else, because I have no standard for what a relationship looks like outside of this one?

And the most frustrating part is that there is no way to find out without utterly jeopardising everything and self destructing a genuinely good relationship. Subconsciously my mind has started saying things like “Person X is shares this interest with you that your girlfriend doesn’t” and that makes me feel guilty, overwhelmed and stressed.
The uncertainty of not being able to know is driving me insane and I feel like it’s only a matter of time before I do something self destructive and ruin everything.

So does anyone have any tips or advice on how to proceed and deal with this almost paralysing uncertainty? Any help at all would be greatly appreciated 🙏

Personally ever since I learned the strategy for Lynels they scare me much less but I always panic a little when I hear the Guardian music.
My friend has the opposite opinion, however, so I’m curious to hear what other people think
(EDIT: their argument is that guardians take only a few seconds to defeat and only have one attack whereas Lynels are much more of a trial to beat)

I was at a choir competition recently and we performed a song where the focal point is on the soloists for the duration of the piece. It is a beautiful and lively piece (a contemporary Irish song called ‘Geantraí’) but learning it made me wonder, though, if solos really embody the nature and the magic of choral music. In my mind, what sets choir apart from other forms of musical artistry is the blending of dozens of voices into a transcendental sound that is worth much more than the sum of its parts. Imo, when you choose to only show off one or two of these voices, you remove the very essence of what makes choral singing special. At that point, why not just sing with instrumental accompaniment?

I’m curious to hear other people’s thoughts on this subject, because most choristers I’ve met don’t seem to have any major feelings about it