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Tengo 25 años y nunca he tenido novia.
En el trabajo me atrae una mujer de 33 años aproximadamente. Ella es reservada y un poco callada pero es del tipo de mujeres que me gustan.
Algunas veces he entablado conversación con ella pero no ha bastado como para que tenga interés en mí.
¿Alguna vez les ha pasado que les ha gustado alguien del trabajo?
Sé que no se caga donde se come pero la tentación de verla todos los días me pone ansioso.

25 M.

Ever since I was a child, I’ve always struggled to start conversations with other kids, and even more so with girls. Because of that, I grew up being overprotected by my parents, which led me to develop an unhealthy dependence on others.

As a result, I spent a very lonely childhood, and the same happened during my teenage years and now in adulthood.

Currently, it is urgent for me to develop social skills such as starting conversations, leadership, effective communication, and so on.

Beyond needing these skills for work-related reasons, I also need them in my emotional and personal life, since I’ve never had a partner and s3x. Naturally, my body craves those experiences and needs.

Every day I have negative thoughts about my future, and I honestly can’t picture myself reaching the age of 30. On top of that, I’m balding and I’m 160 cm tall.

I’ve been thinking about joining a public speaking workshop, and although I attended one in the past, it didn’t really help. It felt more like a place where extroverted people gather and isolate the shy ones.

Now I also have to deal with this stigma that men are supposed to be extroverted, strong, and able to conquer women, to the point that some people — including my sister — have said they thought I was gay, even though I like women.

I’m tired of being weak.

Literally. I’m 160 cm tall, weigh 60 kg, and I’m shy.

Ever since I was a child, I’ve always been afraid of fighting or getting into trouble. That’s why, at 25 years old (M), I’ve become a pushover, and it shows at my job, which is why I isolate myself and end up being the butt of everyone’s jokes.

The worst part is that I got used to it, and changing causes me intense fear; sometimes I stutter and suffer from social anxiety. For that, I take antidepressants prescribed by a public psychiatrist.

So I’m tired of my life, of never having had any kind of relationship, and of being considered less of a man in this society.

25 H
Entré de pasante hace 8 meses en una universidad muy conocida y buena en este país como apoyo administrativo. Me renovaron el convenio 2 veces pero no me siento cómodo en este trabajo.
Resulta que soy un poco olvidadizo y generalmente bastante callado y he notado como como algunas personas soy sarcásticas conmigo o se ríen de mi a mis espaldas, aparte de que antes asistía a varias reuniones con mi jefe que ahora ya casi ni asisto. Aclaro que somos 3 en la oficina, recientemente se incorporó un nuevo compañero y desde ese entonces como que me han reducido las tareas y me han pedido documentar todo.
Sé lo complicado que es conseguir trabajo y mucho más sin contactos pero últimamente he estado pensando en cambiar de trabajo, no sé cómo hacer para sobrevivir en esta vida.