I ( F30) feel like my bf ( M40) sabotaged my birthday plans intentionally
I’ve ( F30) been dating someone ( M40) for about 9 months. It’s my birthday in a couple weeks. Usually I go away for the weekend surrounding my birthday. I brought up my birthday and he suggested a trip away. I said i was open but wanted to plan something before it was too late. As the weeks have ticked down I said again I needed to plan because I didn’t want to end up being alone for my birthday. He was snippy with me. I let him know my family was asking and would be unable to take off time for it if I didn’t let them know. He was clear he wanted to plan something together. A few days later when I brought it up.. He then told me he had to work the entire day until midnight. he had also planned a boys weekend for the weekend after and that he had to work the weekend before. I was really taken aback. I would’ve been fine making my own plans but now no one is available for my birthday. I feel really hurt.. and it feels a bit like it was done purposely knowing he had of work so he made it so I couldn’t make plans either. I just needed to get this off my chest. What would you do in this situation? ( he knows my birthday is extra special for me because I was very sick with cancer recently, and celebrate special moments is important to me. )