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I consider myself to be a kind person who cares a lot about people. I always make it a habit of saying ’Good Morning’ or ‘Good Afternoon’ as well as complimenting students I know and don’t know in my school. I just want to be kind and make someone’s day because you really don’t know what another person is going through. It makes my day to make someone smile.

Well basically my Pastoral Manager spoke with me privately and said that one girl and her friend reported me and asked if I could recall the ‘incident’. I always am friendly to lots of people so I said I can’t know for sure who or when this was as I do this on a daily basis.

He then explained that the students who reported me said that I complimented them which made them feel “uncomfortable“. I honestly never meant for anyone to be uncomfortable or upset in any way whatsoever. I just want to spread love and kindness to people. That’s just how I am as a person.

My Pastoral Manager explained I’m not in trouble but that I should be mindful as in this day and age you have to be careful with what you say. I feel awful and upset that I can’t even do any good without getting accused and blamed.

Edit: Sorry I'm from the UK so I should clarify what a Pastoral Manager is as there seems to be confusion. A Pastoral Manager in the UK is basically a school staff member responsible for overseeing the emotional, social, and behavioural welfare of students.

I consider myself to be a kind person who cares a lot about people. I always make it a habit of saying ’Good Morning’ or ‘Good Afternoon’ as well as complimenting students I know and don’t know in my school. I just want to be kind and make someone’s day because you really don’t know what another person is going through. It makes my day to make someone smile.

Well basically my Pastoral Manager spoke with me privately and said that one girl and her friend reported me and asked if I could recall the ‘incident’. I always am friendly to lots of people so I said I can’t know for sure who or when this was as I do this on a daily basis.

He then explained that the students who reported me said that I complimented them which made them feel “uncomfortable“. I honestly never meant for anyone to be uncomfortable or upset in any way whatsoever. I just want to spread love and kindness to people. That’s just how I am as a person.

My Pastoral Manager explained I’m not in trouble but that I should be mindful as in this day and age you have to be careful with what you say. I feel awful and upset that I can’t even do any good without getting accused and blamed.

I came home from school and found out my Dad has cancer stage III. I’m depressed and lonely. I also have anxiety and might have ADHD all of which are undiagnosed so I can’t confirm. My parents won’t allow me to get a diagnosis and they stopped me from getting an ADHD one. The other issues I mask so well which has been for years. I honestly don’t know what to do. I apologise for the ramble.

Thank you and I hope whoever is reading this has a beautiful day and is doing well.

Hi I struggle with mental health issues which are undiagnosed as my parents won't allow. I struggle with depressive episodes, anxiety and I think ADHD all of which I mask. I wanted to ask how can I try and focus properly as it is something I struggle with to a great extent. I have an exam coming up for my A-Levels so any help would be deeply appreciated.

Thank you and I hope you have a beautiful day!!