BEWARE men -- your wife is a reflection of you (the husband)
Been married for almost two years now, and I can say with 100% certainty that my wife has slowly become a reflection of me over the past few months 😂
My wife (25) is 7 months pregnant with our first child, Alhamdulillah. She’s everything I could ask for. But recently, I’ve started noticing little habits of mine showing up in her, and it’s honestly funny to watch.
For example, I have this habit of cutting people off midway if I feel like they’re misunderstanding me or saying something incorrect. Instead of fully listening, I jump in quickly to explain my point or “share my wisdom” 😂. I’m not proud of it, and even my manager pointed it out to me before, so I’ve been actively working on it. Alhamdulillah, I’ve improved over time.
Now the funny part is, my wife — who used to patiently listen to everything I said before responding — has subconsciously started doing the same thing. She cuts me off midway now to share her own view 😭😂 Since I’m already like that myself, it doesn’t bother me much. If anything, it’s hilarious to witness.
Another thing is how I react whenever someone points out one of my weaknesses. Instead of directly acknowledging it, I instantly divert the conversation to something else. I genuinely think I inherited this from my mother 😂
For example, whenever I call my mum and remind her to take care of herself, take her medication on time, and not let her diabetes get worse, instead of responding to what I said, she immediately changes the topic and starts talking about my brother 😭
And now, over the past month or two, I’ve started seeing my wife do the exact same thing. It’s funny, honestly. Nothing I complain about at all — if anything, it made me realize how much women naturally pick up habits from the people they trust and spend their lives with.
Alhamdulillah, beyond these little things, I strive to be a man of my word. I try my best to follow the Qur’an and authentic Sunnah and lead my household correctly. One of the things that genuinely makes me happy is seeing how much my wife’s imaan has grown after marriage. She has become more righteous and more connected to the deen than ever before, Alhamdulillah.
A man truly needs to be upon the haqq and strive to be a good role model for his wife and daughters.
Now excuse me while I go buy her flowers and chocolates 🌹🍫