Would a therapist be able to help?
A bit of background. I (F53) and hubby (M65) have been married for twenty years. Sex has gone downhill majorly since he’s been on medication for some issues, which now also stops him getting an erection although he hasn’t lost his sex drive.
Let me be clear - that part doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I adore this man and we’ve generally made it work with other things like toys and plenty of oral.
But lately it’s just become incredibly boring. It’s always the same position, always the same toys and it’s boring me to tears. I never thought he’d turn so vanilla.
I’ve definitely tried communicating ways to spice things up but it falls on deaf ears. I’ve suggested new toys, watching porn, different positions, some
light bondage, even bringing another person in for a bit of extra fun (which we have both done with other people before we were together). I asked him to go and buy me some slutty or sexy lingerie and surprise me with it, and I’ll do whatever he wants…….but nothing.
I’m losing my mind here 😂 What else can I try? I’m honestly tempted to go and book a SW for myself just to get some satisfaction.