u/CampOlive921

I know this post is going to make me sound ungrateful but I’m looking for honest opinions.

I’m really picky about home decor. Like really picky. It’s to the point where I’ll find something online and sit on it for months before deciding to buy it because I want to be sure I actually like it, and it’s not something that caught my eye because it’s “trendy”.

I also am someone who cannot stand clutter. I am not a minimalist by any means, but I want everything in my space to have a function. My husband and I live in a small apartment and we dont have space for storing seasonal decor anywhere. So I don’t change out anything for the seasons (besides our Christmas tree and some sentimental Christmas items), and our decor stays the same all year.

Both my mom and MIL buy us decor items all the time. My mom knows more of my style and typically gifts us things that would go well in our apartment, but again, the main issue is the lack of space to put it. My MIL on the other hand doesn’t know my style at all and we end up with a lot of things that are her style and would go well in her house.

I always say thank you to both and have tried to express that I prefer to not be gifted decor items, but they still gift it anyways. When they come over, both have made comments about how their gifts are not out on display, and I feel awful. But it also would be exhausting to pull everything out for when they visit, and put it back away when they leave.

I’m starting to feel like I’m in the wrong and should just put it all out, even though it doesn’t make me happy to see in my space. Am I the asshole for not using the home decor gifts people give us?

My husband and I have been trying to conceive and I’m starting to wonder if it’s time to seek out the help of doctor’s and/or a fertility clinic?

I went off birth control at the beginning of 2025 and experienced post-pill amenorrhea for the entirety of 2025. I eventually found out at the end of the year that I have PCOS, which was why I was not having monthly cycles.

I started a supplement routine that has brought back my monthly cycle and have now had 3 normal-ish cycles (they vary on length). Since my cycle has returned, I’ve also been using the inito tracker to track my hormones to help us during our fertility journey. So far, no luck.

I have heard that it’s not recommended to seek fertility help until a year after trying, and so I’m just unsure based on our specific circumstance if I should consider us past that year mark, or if we’re considered just a few months in.

At what point should we discuss this with doctors?

Regardless, I also don’t know what our first step would be. Would I reach out to my OBGYN (my doctor is the nurse practitioner), or get connected with a fertility clinic? Is there any specific doctor my husband should see?

These might be common sense questions, but I don’t have any friends that have TTC yet to ask advice about their experiences, so any advice or guidance that you can give is really appreciated.