u/CalligrapherTop5038

E2 or E4?

How I relate to 4: low self-esteem, feelings of being defective, unloveable, gross, weird, self-comparison, jealousy, intense shame, never feeling good enough no matter how much I push myself or what I change about my body or myself as a person. I built an athletic physique to feel better about myself and it’s still not enough. I’m also pretty emotionally intense even if I don’t show it all the time. I’m also more introverted than not I think. I’m also emotionally aware. I can also be quite pessimistic and reactive at times. I can have a temper and a sense of melancholy. I know it’s not worth focusing on though but I get moody. I try not to get stuck in bad moods. If anything I channel my bad moods and my self-loathing into pushing myself harder and being a better version of myself.

How I relate to E2: need for admiration, to be seen, to be loved, to be admired and looked up to. High emotionality, moving towards people, especially in stress (people close to me mostly) instead of withdrawing. I need to talk to others about my feelings and to release them somewhere. Whether that’s writing, listening to music or distracting myself with shopping, substances, adventures and acting out and having fun. I’m always put into leadership positions or assumed to be the leader in groups. I’m not usually giving unless it’s for someone I’m deeply attached to or to gain influence within a group. I was sort of champion of the underdogs in school (which made me consider so8 or sx6 but neither fit me very well) and I made people feel accepted and valued for who they are. I’m also sensitive to criticism. I worry about being wanted or needed by people and my entire sense of self-worth is dependent on people’s opinions of me. I enjoy being a person of reference, seen as knowledgable and competent.

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u/CalligrapherTop5038 — 5 days ago

Pretty certain I’m an image type. Either 2 or 4 with a 3 wing.

Previous typings: so8, sx8, sx6, sx4

Socionics type is EIE and in 100% sure of it

Aspects of 4 I relate to: While I know my start in life wasn’t easy I just don’t see the point in dwelling on it. It could’ve been worse I suppose. I also don’t like complaining much. Worried about being too negative and people not wanting to be around me. I’m very emotionally expressive and a person who wears his heart on his sleeve and is very sensitive. I was generally a very enthusiastic, adventurous and outgoing as a child. With a side of fiery passion and a temper (I know I have an 8 fix) especially when it comes to injustice. I think seeing others being done wrong upsets me more than someone treating me badly. I can also be hedonistic and wild. I enjoy art and music and expressing myself through those means. I can be jealous when cast aside or when I’m not the centre of attention anymore. I don’t go to “well of course they get attention there’s something wrong with me” it’s more “should be me”. At my worst I can blame others for my shortcomings and project. I also feel selfish sometimes. I hate appearing selfish. (NOT calling 4s selfish btw) I would also not describe myself as competitive.

Aspects of 6 I relate to: fairly certain my head fix is 6. Something like 268/468. Only concerned about relationships. That’s usually the extent of my anxiety. It does not extend to friendships or work or anything. I’m more sane when I’m not in a relationship but I yearn for something deeper and intense when I’m single. Craving validation and a sense of being wanted and attractive. Needing compliments and attention from someone. I befriended misfits and bullied kids in school and protected them and inspired them.

Aspects of 2 I relate to: giving to get. Moving towards people, wanting to chase and repair relationships when I feel someone pulling away. Flattering the other, wanting to be chosen, wanted, needed, praised, leading the emotional environment, being expressive, influencing, can come off as pushy, emotionally controlling, changing my image, disappearing and feeling guilty when I explode, get angry or come off to strong when it comes to negative emotions. Leading with emotion, sensitive to criticism, needing validation, self-esteem depends on the opinions of others especially people I care about. Not wanting to be cast as the villain, sensitive and vigilant when it comes to other people’s feelings. I wouldn’t call myself super warm though. I’m always put into leadership positions. When I was in school, I had a group of kids that would follow me and listen to me alongside a group of dedicated haters lol I was not popular yet longed to be.

Some 3 traits: lowkey believe im more competent and better than others but I don’t rely on achieved alone for validation or praise. Dont know if im just projecting an ideal image of myself or if thats what I really am

Don’t ask me what my motivations are idk what they are lmao the strongest thing that stands out to me is wanting to be loved honestly.

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u/CalligrapherTop5038 — 18 days ago