His age on Hinge was 34 and he changed it to his actual age which is 38 a day before the date so I decided to end it because he kept lying that it wasn’t intentional (look at the keypad, how do you mix up 1987 with 1991 😭).
How can he say he has not connected with anyone in the past decade?? That’s such a red flag. I didn’t block him so that he suffers but atp I think I’ll block him ;_;
I had been in a talking stage with a guy from Hinge since March end. We’d been meeting every weekend and two weeks ago he asked to make things official, but I said I needed more time because certain things were making me doubt our compatibility. He compliments me a lot saying I have pretty eyes/great body/look like Aishwarya Rai/etc but at the same time here and there he passes hurtful remarks on my appearance which he passes off as a joke.
It started with comments about my forehead being big and my lips being thin. But there was one comment that really hurt me. We were just chilling together in his room, it was quiet but not awkward, he was staring at my face for long and then randomly asked if I am inbred because he thinks I have a chin like the Spanish royals from the past who were inbred. He then started kissing my chin saying he likes my inbred chin. I found that offensive but I did not react in that moment and rushed to the bathroom to calm down. He keeps claiming that cracking jokes on physical appearance is normal in his culture (North Indian) and he checks if someone is cool enough to hang out with by cracking such jokes. But the thing is we weren’t even having banter and this felt so mean spirited and unfunny to me.
Other than this the last weekend he asked me to debloat my face and lose weight to become 45kg. I am 50kg at 5’2” and I was very underweight in the past. I had shown him my old photos and he felt I looked good then and he prefers the skinny model look because he himself is skinny (58kg at 6’1” however he insists this is normal and not underweight). Hearing all these unwarranted comments on my appearance in what should be the honeymoon period put me off. He agreed to not make any more comments on my appearance after I confronted him about it but he also said he said “I don’t think you can’t take a joke” and to understand where he comes from which made me feel like his apology was insincere so I ended things.
There are a few other incompatibility issues probably cause I am 31 and he’s 27 which is too much to type here. The inbred chin comment happened in the first week of April but I still tried to ignore it and be with him because he does compliment me a lot too. It all felt very conflicting and he said I can’t just throw around terms like negging at him cause his intentions were not malicious.
Tldr: Guy I was seeing for past one month complimented me a lot but also kept making “jokes” about my appearance. Later told me to lose weight and “debloat” my face to fit his ideal skinny look. Says this humor is normal in his culture/friend group and that he didn’t mean harm.
I have been in a talking stage with a guy from Hinge since March end. We’ve been meeting every weekend and gotten intimate too. Two weeks ago he asked to make things official, but I said I needed more time because certain things were making me doubt our compatibility. He compliments me a lot but at the same time here and there he passes hurtful remarks on my appearance which he passes off as a joke.
It started with comments about my forehead being big and my lips being thin. But there was one comment that really hurt me. We were just chilling together in his room, it was quiet but not awkward, he was staring at my face for long and then randomly asked if I am inbred because he thinks I have a chin like the Spanish royals from the past who were inbred. He then started kissing my chin saying he likes my inbred chin. I found that offensive but I did not react in that moment and rushed to the bathroom to calm down. He keeps claiming that cracking jokes on physical appearance is normal in his culture (North Indian) and he checks if someone is cool enough to hang out with by cracking such jokes. But the thing is we weren’t even having banter and this felt so mean spirited and unfunny to me.
Other than this the last weekend he asked me to debloat my face and lose weight to become 45kg. I am 50kg at 5’2” and I was very underweight in the past. I had shown him my old photos and he felt I looked good then and he prefers the skinny model look because he himself is skinny (58kg at 6’1” however he insists this is normal and not underweight). I feel like hearing all these comments on my appearance unwarranted in what should be the honeymoon period put me off. He agreed to not make any more comments on my appearance after I confronted him about it but he also said he thinks I can take a joke and to understand where he comes from which made me feel like his apology was insincere.
I think things are over now because I felt really triggered by all of this but I wanted to know did I overeact at all. There are a few other incompatibility issues probably cause I am 31 and he’s 27 which is too much to type here. The inbred chin comment happened in the first week of April but I still tried to ignore it and be with him because he does compliment me a lot too. It all felt very conflicting and he said I can’t just throw around terms like negging at him cause his intentions were not malicious.
Tldr: Guy I was seeing for past one month complimented me a lot but also kept making “jokes” about my appearance. Later told me to lose weight and “debloat” my face to fit his ideal skinny look. Says this humor is normal in his culture/friend group and that he didn’t mean harm. I feel turned off and triggered by it. Am I overreacting?
I have been in a talking stage with a guy from Hinge since March end. We’ve been meeting every weekend and gotten intimate too. Two weeks ago he asked to make things official, but I said I needed more time because certain things were making me doubt our compatibility. He compliments me a lot but at the same time here and there he passes hurtful remarks on my appearance which he passes off as a joke.
It started with comments about my forehead being big and my lips being thin. But there was one comment that really hurt me. We were just chilling together in his room, it was quiet but not awkward, he was staring at my face for long and then randomly asked if I am inbred because he thinks I have a chin like the Spanish royals from the past who were inbred. He then started kissing my chin saying he likes my inbred chin. I found that offensive but I did not react in that moment and rushed to the bathroom to calm down. He keeps claiming that cracking jokes on physical appearance is normal in his culture (North Indian) and he checks if someone is cool enough to hang out with by cracking such jokes. But the thing is we weren’t even having banter and this felt so mean spirited and unfunny to me.
Other than this the last weekend he asked me to debloat my face and lose weight to become 45kg. I am 50kg at 5’2” and I was very underweight in the past. I had shown him my old photos and he felt I looked good then and he prefers the skinny model look because he himself is skinny (58kg at 6’1” however he insists this is normal and not underweight). I feel like hearing all these comments on my appearance unwarranted in what should be the honeymoon period put me off. He agreed to not make any more comments on my appearance after I confronted him about it but he also said he thinks I can take a joke and to understand where he comes from which made me feel like his apology was insincere.
I think things are over now because I felt really triggered by all of this but I wanted to know did I overeact at all. There are a few other incompatibility issues probably cause I am 31 and he’s 27 which is too much to type here. The inbred chin comment happened in the first week of April but I still tried to ignore it and be with him because he does compliment me a lot too. It all felt very conflicting and he said I can’t just throw around terms like negging at him cause his intentions were not malicious.
Tldr: Guy I was seeing for past one month complimented me a lot but also kept making “jokes” about my appearance. Later told me to lose weight and “debloat” my face to fit his ideal skinny look. Says this humor is normal in his culture/friend group and that he didn’t mean harm. I feel turned off and triggered by it. Am I overreacting?