u/Broad-Cap-1517 — reddlx

we made plans to meet this Thursday because it's the last day of my exam period and I'll be free(ish). I intentionally made those plans because I'm not happy in the relationship lately, and I wanted to talk to him, which is really hard for me. He didn't know I meant to talk to him.

He forgot about it, and scheduled a work (coffee shop/bartender) shift. Haven't seen him in over a week and haven't spent more than 3 hours with him since 2 weeks ago (not his fault, just the circumstances). And next week he's in a trip abroad with friends. And he knows Thursdays are my free days.

Work asked him to come cause no one else could (he doesn't work there really anymore, just every now and again when they need help). He said yes. I mentioned our plans on Thursday, and he said he can't see me, he scheduled work. And he's sorry he forgot.

The next day i told him that A. I'm hurt he forgot me, (he forgets me often and he knows this is something that hurts me) And B. "I meant to talk to you this Thursday because there are things weighing on me, but you scheduled work, so now it's on you to figure out when we can talk"

He is going abroad with friends in a week, there will not be another time to see him because next week he has to stay at his parents place and take care of the dogs. He will be back 2 weeks after.

No one can replace him at work, and he cares about this work place and it's people, they are friends, and he doesn't want to disappoint them. He has a lot of work ethic. When he said "I told them that I'll be there, so I feel I need to" i said "you told me you'll be here ttoo" and he told me first.

I don't know what i even think he should do. Is it asking for too much to cancel the shift? No one can do it, they might have to be closed that night. But he told me he'll be here, and I feel that i need to talk to him. I feel myself drifting away from him the longer i keep my feelings to myself. Do you think he should cancel the shift? Am i meant to come first? Would you cancel the shift?

small edit: money is not the issue here, he has a different day job, this is to help the place out cause their employees aren't free.

Another small edit: we will be on one night gateaway right before his flight - wasn't mentioned originally cause we want to solve this before, it's meant to be fun. Like if this will still be going on till then we will just postpone. I see now i should've mentioned this i just didn't want the post to be longer lol. It's 1 day before the flight though, so it's a bad idea to open a deep conversation i think.