u/Brilliant_Power_6112

Currently going through a divorce and my daughter is 3. One of the biggest disagreements right now is vaccines. My ex knows this is a sensitive topic for me and is pushing hard for her to get vaccinated, while I don’t.

I recently had blood work done for my daughter and found out she tested positive for an MTHFR variant. I’ve been trying to research whether kids with MTHFR mutations can be more sensitive to vaccines or certain ingredients, but I’m finding a lot of conflicting information online.

Has anyone here dealt with this situation before or have any reputable resources/studies I can look into regarding MTHFR and vaccine reactions/sensitivity in children? I would appreciate respectful advice or experiences.

Where are the good Muslim men at? Seriously 😅
I’m recently going through a divorce because my ex cheated on me, and it completely changed how I look at relationships. I know there are good Muslim men out there, but right now it just feels so hard to find them.
The apps honestly haven’t been a great experience for me. It feels very surface-level, and I’m looking for something real, stable, and God-conscious. After what I went through, I know I’ll have a hard time trusting again unless someone really proves themselves through their actions, not just words.
I’m based in the U.S., in my 20s, and I do want to get remarried eventually—but the right way, with the right person. I’m not trying to rush into anything, but I also don’t want to feel stuck or discouraged.
For any Muslim sisters who are happily married or found a genuinely good husband—how did you meet? Was it through family, community, friends, or something else? Any advice on where to actually meet serious, marriage-minded men?
Also, how did you navigate trust after being hurt?
I’d really appreciate any real advice or experiences. I just need a little hope right now that good men still exist and that it’s possible to find something healthy after going through betrayal.

I’m going through a divorce right now because my ex had an affair. It’s been a few months, and I’m trying to stay strong, but I’ll be honest—it’s really hard in ways I didn’t fully expect.
I’m dealing with a lot emotionally, but also physically. The temptations feel very real and frustrating, and it honestly feels like a test. I don’t want to fall into anything haram, and I genuinely want to do the right thing. At the same time, I don’t want to rush into remarriage just to “fix” this feeling. I want to do it the right way and with the right person.
I’m in my 20s, and I feel like my hormones are all over the place, which doesn’t help. On top of that, I have trust issues now, and the idea of opening up to someone again feels overwhelming. I just feel stuck between wanting companionship and being scared of getting hurt again.
For anyone who’s been through something similar—how did you deal with this phase? How did you stay patient and grounded? Did things actually get easier over time?
I guess I’m just looking for some perspective and reassurance that there’s light at the end of this. Right now, it just feels like a really lonely and confusing place to be.

I never thought I’d be posting here, but here I am.
I went through a divorce after finding out my partner was having an affair. We have a child together, and while I was fully invested in our family, he was out living a completely different life behind my back.
I’ll be honest—part of me feels like a badass for how I handled it. I blindsided him with the divorce. I didn’t beg, I didn’t chase, I didn’t stay and tolerate it. I walked away.
But at the same time… I’m still really hurt.
We had what I thought was a real love story. It wasn’t easy for us to even get married—we went through a lot to get there. And then to build a life, to make him a father… that felt like such a blessing at the time. Now it just feels confusing and painful.
I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect, but I know the kind of wife I was. I supported him financially when needed. I gave him space to figure things out instead of nagging or adding pressure. I lived with his family. I compromised—a lot. I showed up for him.
And now I just feel… used.
I believed in his potential. I really did. And instead, it feels like he took advantage of everything I gave.
We were only married a few years, and in a strange way, I thank God that the truth came out now. I can’t even imagine finding out years down the line—it would’ve destroyed me even more. At least now, I have a chance to rebuild and eventually be with someone who actually values me.
But that doesn’t take away the pain.
What’s hardest is having to co-parent with someone who hurt me this deeply. Still having to communicate. Still being reminded of him. And sometimes wondering how someone who shared a life with you could switch up like that.
I feel like I’m stuck between being proud of myself and grieving what I thought my life was going to be.
For anyone who’s been through this:
Does it actually get better?
How do you move on when you still have to co-parent with them?
And how do you stop caring about what they’re doing now?
I don’t regret leaving. I just wish it didn’t hurt this much