My partner (27f) said I (28m) wasn’t being fair when I expected her to stick to our plans
I recently interviewed for a new job. My girlfriend and I agreed we’d go out for a meal and drinks to celebrate if I got it. This was two weeks ago when we agreed.
There’s a place that we wanted to try that had a deal on with a meal and unlimited drinks for two hours so we agreed to go there.
There’s interviewed told me I’d find out by today so we agreed we’d go tomorrow if I got the job. The interviewees phoned to offer me the job and when o told my gf and mentioned booking the restaurant.
She said she wouldn’t be able to as a couple of friends messaged her this week asking if she wanted to do something and she agreed. She said it’s next weekend but it means she can’t afford to do anything this weekend.
I pointed out she knew there was a good chance we’d be busy this weekend so why is she accepting other plans then cancelling on me.
She said it’s not like that but i just said that’s exactly what’s happened. She said she’s already agreed to go but I just told her it’s clear I’m not a priority. She said I wasn’t being fair but I disagree.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this or have any other perspective on it?
tl;dr my girlfriend and I had plans to celebrate if I got a new job. I got offered the job then my gf cancelled as she made other plans and couldnt afford both. She said I wasn’t being fair when I argued she should be sticking to our plans and that I clearly wasn’t a priority.