My wife and I will be married ten years next month. We have five kids, ranging from 16 down to three. With that amount of kids, you can imagine how she would come to me recently saying she feels nothing to me anymore and is exhausted. She has mentioned separation to try to see if that helps, but with five kids and bills, we would have to start selling stuff to make room. She said she needs space. As a man, I’m willing to do whatever it takes, change whatever I have to, to make our marriage last, but she keeps saying we’ve grown apart. I don’t give up on a marriage and family so if anyone files for divorce it will have to be her. I realize now pressuring her makes it worse so I don’t even discuss the marriage. If we talk, it’s about household things, kids, etc. Anybody have similar experiences here or advice? Especially women?
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My wife and I will be married ten years next month. We have five kids, ranging from 16, 11, 8, 5 and three. They are so young and we’ve built so much to throw it away. With that amount of kids, you can imagine how she would come to me recently saying she feels nothing to me anymore and is exhausted. She has mentioned separation to try to see if that helps, but with five kids and bills, we would have to start selling stuff to make room. She said she needs space. As a man, I’m willing to do whatever it takes, change whatever I have to, to make our marriage last, but she keeps saying we’ve grown apart. I don’t give up on a marriage and family so if anyone files for divorce it will have to be her. I realize now pressuring her makes it worse so I don’t even discuss the marriage. If we talk, it’s about household things, kids, etc. Anybody have similar experiences here or advice? Especially women?
I’m 37, my wife and I have five kids. We’ve been married for almost ten years. The kids have undoubtedly made it difficult to maintain our relationship. She recently said she “doesn’t feel anything between us anymore” and wants to try separating but not divorce. I have been begging God to send me some signs that things will be ok. Praying to get into her heart. We used to be very devout but that has also changed. I’m at peace with whatever will happen but has anyone been in this scenario? How do we handle when we feel like God is ignoring us?