Is breaking no contact a bad idea if you can't stop thinking about him? F25, M26
My boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after 4 years together for valid reasons. The relationship was not healthy- mainly the way we would communicate/speak to each other, there was a lack of respect in situations and I couldn't keep accepting it and waiting for things to change. Since being apart, I have felt a lot more regulated emotionally and I have noticed improvements to my general wellbeing and nervous system. In saying this, I still think he is the best man I have ever met and I think about him constantly. We are no contact. I can't imagine being with any one else and I feel lonely and sad whenever I am by myself- I miss him a lot. I miss my best friend. Im not sure if this feeling will pass or if I should message him.
When we had our last conversation, he said he will always love me and that if I ever want to reach out and reconnect I can. I told him that that wasn't fair on either of us and I wanted him to let go and move on with his life because I had made my mind up. I do not want to message him unless I know what I want, but it feels like my judgement is blurred right now as Im in the depths of the breakup. Can anyone give me advice from experience on how to deal with this stage of the breakup, and if reaching out could be a good idea?