I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for a simple cut and dry in Uppsala? I’m currently visiting the university as a PhD visiting scholar for three weeks and would like to get my hair cut whilst I’m here. My home university is in Scotland, meaning that they tend to cut my hair too bluntly as it is fine but dense, but that seems to be the dominant hair type here. Would love any recommendations!
Hello,
I’m currently a PhD student (F23) at the start of my conversion journey. We have a small community in my university town, but no synagogue so I have to wait for a formal conversion. I’m still deciding between masorti and orthodox, and I’m hoping for some insight from either side.
A bit of personal information, I was taken away from my family by social services in 2020, and haven’t had contact with them in 6 years. As a result, I’ve found mentors and guidance throughout my life in other people, most of them being men. The thing that’s currently stopping me from the conversion to modern orthodoxy is the gender separation for this reason. I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life without being able to hug or even touch my mentors, especially since they acted as surrogate parents. Most of my friends are also men, and I’ll be entering an incredibly male dominated field for my career. I cannot imagine not celebrating with the men in my life on my wedding day, and having to dance on the women’s side, which not only would not include my mentors but also highlight the hole in my life of not having female family members around to celebrate me.
I know this sounds really ‘pick me’ but due to my primary abusers being women and being bullied in school, I’ve always found it hard to make longterm female relationships. These relationships would to become the centre of my life if I choose the conversion via orthodox, and even with 6 years of intense therapy, the situation hasn’t really changed. It works the same way really as to why women don’t trust men after a bad experience, except I’m also a woman. Of course, the orthodox conversion comes with its perks and is theologically more aligned with my beliefs, but I just don’t know if I can spend a lifetime without other close relationships with men other than my future husband.
Did anyone else have a similar issue to this? How did they navigate it? I keep bouncing between modern orthodox and conservative and I really don’t know what to do. The chaplain at my university offers some guidance but it would be good to hear from others.
No, you aren’t getting a photo. But I’m (F23) spiralling at the moment, I finally had the confidence to try and order a bikini in again since I hate wearing swim dresses and skirts and the bottoms have just arrived and I remembered why I ‘have’ to wear them so much. I never see other women at swimming pools or beaches with anything close to mine, but is it as bad as everyone makes it out to be? I just want to be able to show off the rest of my body since I work hard to train it but everytime I try and look up how to hide it, it just comes up with porn or fluffy ‘love your body’ mantra stuff that doesn’t really help the fact I feel like everyone is going to judge me. Are camel does really that rare? Are they deemed as ugly in society as I’ve been led to believe? Do I just go back to the swim dress?
Edit: it might not be a camel toe, it just sort of hangs down to the point it’s noticeable. Nothing is too tight
Edit 2: it is not a camel toe, a commenter has provided this image: https://unsplash.com/photos/woman-in-pink-bikini-standing-on-beach-during-daytime-9UY_vg8GBDE which is what I’m dealing with
Edit 3: I turned the big light off in my room and the bikini looked a lot better, I think part of it is lighting and where shadows are cast. Feeling slightly foolish rn 😔