u/Both-Bet-5061

So this involves four people and we are all women. I’ll give everyone fake names for clarity.

My friend “Bella” and I made plans to go see a movie. My girlfriend ”Ann” has never met this friend before and when I told her about it she expressed interest in tagging along. I let my friend know my gf was interested in coming and Bella said sounds good and she’d see if her girlfriend “Cam” could come as well, to make it a double date. I have met Cam a few times.

I mentioned this to my girlfriend and she said she didn’t want to go anymore. I asked why and she said she just didn’t feel like meeting two new people in the same night. She also said she didn’t want to go on a double date with 2 strangers. I told her I understood, fair enough. We are both introverts.

So I ended up going to the movie with just Bella and Cam, that was yesterday. When I got home my girlfriend seemed upset with me. I asked her what was up and she said she was hurt I went to the movies without her. She feels that I should have asked Bella not to bring Cam so it could just be the 3 of us. And my gf feels like since she was asked to go before Cam was asked, Cam should have been the one to stay home, kind of like “last one in first one out”. She is really hurt I went without her and feels like I didn’t care for her to come. I tried explaining that I did want her to come, I just feel like it’s unfair to ask my friend not to bring her girlfriend when I‘m the one who asked to bring my girlfriend first. AITAH?

Me (24F) and my roommate (25F) have a cat. The cat has two litter boxes that need to be emptied, cleaned out and fresh litter put in. It needs to be done once a week. When we first got the cat we agreed that we’d each be in charge of a box and clean that one every week. But this is something my roommate sometimes doesn’t get around to doing, and I’ll end up cleaning both boxes. Today she asked if I wanted to do the litterboxes together. I told her that since I did both litterboxes last week, she should really do both boxes this week too. She said that’s unfair because doing both boxes is a lot of work and she never asked me to do both boxes. But somebody has to clean the boxes, I’m not gonna sit around and just let them get disgusting. I refused to help her with my box and she ended up doing both of them. AITAH?