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The last day and a half my husband (with my help, but I’ve also been caring for the kids) has been installing grass in our yard because it was just dirt prior and he’s leaving for work and we don’t know when he’ll be back (I’m talking months with him coming home for a weekend at the end of may because his moms coming home)
We have a 4 month old and a 4 year old. I sleep very little and now and with him gone it’s going to be even less.
He just asked me if he could sleep in tmrw. He has a 6 hour drive and is leaving later at night because he’s doing the lawn. Idk why I’m so upset by it but it’s like cmon man you’re going to live in basically a frat house with all your work pals and can actually sleep in for months. I’m going to be taking on even more.
Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful the lawns done but he was given 5 days notice to leave we had to rush a bunch of things. But some how I’m upset because I know once he’s gone my sleep, which has already been in shambles (literally went to the hospital a week ago for extreme face twitching which I thought was a stroke starting but was actually just sleep deprivation) is basically non existent and I feel like I should be able to sleep a bit. This morning I did but after 40 minutes he sent our son to wake me up.
Idk idk if I’m being selfish but I’m so upset he’s leaving me to raise the two kids. He could have stopped this long ago but wanted to go for the money and I’ve been opposed the whole time but for the sake of us, I’ve tried to support as well.
Am I wrong for feeling upset?? He does provide an immense amount for our family but nothing feels right. He already leaves at 8am and gets home at 10-11pm.

I know this is all over the place I’m just so stressed out

Okay I’ll keep it as short as possible,

Daughters being baptized, priest insisted on doing it may 10th and I agreed. After I realized it with Mother’s Day. Which honestly I thought was pretty special and was excited for.

Everyone else coming is happy and without complaints but my dad keeps saying I made the wrong decision and how inconsiderate it was to my step mom. Said he made plans to make her a dinner (they live an hour away they would be home the latest at 2)

I was obviously alittle thrown and upset because this is something they do often and I’m told i can make it or not. Which is fine with me if I can’t I can’t.

My dad kept wanting validation so I said sorry and thought we moved on. Then my step mom who had made plans with me a month in advance to come help with my baby so I could do our backyard, canceled and said she had to big of feelings over it. Said Mother’s Day is the one day a year where she gets to feel special besides her birthday and she didn’t want to spend it in a church or with tension between my parents (which my dad said there isn’t when he was arguing with me) Which just kind of upset me all over again. I don’t even want them there at this point because the constant need to bring up the disappointment but not accepting that they don’t have to come is draining beyond belief.

There’s a lot more in between including a pretty big screaming match over the phone. It’s not even about moving the date just how disappointed he is and how much it effects them and they’re feelings.

So AITAH for having it on Mother’s Day?