Hi everyone, I need some advice on behalf of my close friend.
My friend is asexual meaning she has no interest in sexual activity. Before entering her current relationship (now almost 2 years in), she was completely upfront with her boyfriend about this. She clearly told him that she would not be able to fulfill any sexual desires and asked if he could accept that as a condition of the relationship. He agreed without hesitation.
However, about a year into the relationship, he began pressuring her into sexual activities including things she had explicitly said she was not comfortable with.
What makes this harder for her is that she genuinely feels he is the only person who accepts her fully including her insecurities and she fears she will never find someone like that again. This is also her first relationship, which makes the thought of leaving even more overwhelming.
The situation has gotten worse over time. He regularly criticizes her, calling her immature and saying she "doesn't do enough." Whenever she brings up breaking up, he breaks down, promises to change, and commits to respecting her boundaries but nothing ever changes.
She feels stuck and afraid of losing him despite everything. What should she do?