u/Bitter-Hawk-2615

Hi there!
I look at the relationships of those near me, like family, friends and aquaintances and cannot help to find similar things that would arise those questions..: why women like lazy men, like they need to encourage them to achieve certain things in life, then they complain when those men do not commit to their responsibilities?

Like, there are other men in their orbit who actually commit and are more serious, but they want those other kind of men, who they need to beg to to things.

It could be anything about him on how they need to improve their s3x, appeal, health, hygiene, effort in their job, etc etc...

TL;DR:
I’ve noticed a pattern in people around me where some women seem drawn to men who are less motivated or inconsistent, even when more stable and responsible options are available. These relationships often involve a lot of effort to “encourage” or improve the partner (career, habits, hygiene, effort, etc.), followed by frustration when expectations for commitment or responsibility aren’t met. I’m trying to understand why this dynamic happens and what drives these partner choices.

Hello friends!

I have an incredible talent for intellectual pursuits, but I'm a man, and being overly emotional makes me a no-go when it comes to masculine things like organizing things, being a point of reference, getting my bearings, always having the solution.

I'd like to work on these qualities, and so I'd like to explore hobbies and activities I can do and join men's groups where I can grow in these respects.

I already have my intellectual pursuits, such as piano, drawing, board games, and book clubs, but I absolutely need people who can guide me toward the real and sincere qualities that a man should have.

What do you think of ways to work on this?

I work in an office that handles commercial contracts. My two bosses, a married man and woman, manage projects involving approximately 10,000 people. They have daily meetings with these people, about twenty people a day. Since working here, I've felt like a completely different person.

Thanks to my bosses, I've learned to communicate, but it's getting scary because I'm slowly becoming like them. They're very good at persuading; they care deeply about their image and how the company's name is carried, how to exert influence, how to make sure everything goes smoothly.

But now let's get down to the fact that these are people, and they do it in their lives too (they're married), and they treat their friends in that very persuasive way, too. At this point, from my initial "meeting" with them, where I thought they were incredible people because they also have so many friends, I've also noticed some negative qualities, like gossiping a lot about others, having temper tantrums, and setting boundaries for others but not respecting their own.

Do you think this is all toxic and manipulative, even though these people support their families and have long-term friends, and it's actually all genuine? What do you think?

I also hear them talking "good" of others, but that actually sounds like they're doing cold readings..

How do you know the difference?