DUI in Indiana, live out of state
Hi. I’ve been lurking on this sub for a while but y’all are all so kind and nonjudgmental that I finally feel like I can post without curling in on myself.
I got my first (and DEFINITELY last) DUI in Indiana at the end of March. Blew a .17, my husband was in the car with me and drunker than I was. Somehow they let him just call someone to take him home and they didn’t impound the car or anything. Quite frankly I remember them being weirdly nice in general but that was probably because I was crying so much. My license was already suspended (for driving without insurance a while back) so that was an extra layer of charges. There was no accident, I was just driving like a drunk person, which tracks. I don’t even know what the heck I was doing behind a wheel. Anyway, I spent the night in jail and bonded out the next morning and I’m being charged with two Class B misdemeanors.
After sitting with and processing all the shame, fear, self-loathing and everything else that came with this, I’m now finally ready to try and get an idea of what exactly might happen. For a while there I was pretty convinced my life was over, I had ruined everything, and was the worst human being on the face of the earth. We have two young kids (this was our first kid-free night in ages 😪) and I am just now starting to entertain the idea that this doesn’t make me a failure of a mother. This sub and all the compassion within it for people feeling the same way I was helped A LOT.
Anyway, my situation is just slightly complicated and I’d like to know if anyone else has been in my shoes. A week after this happened, we finalized our move to Tennessee, so I no longer live in Indiana where it took place. I spoke to the judge by phone today and got a continuance and a public defender, but I was advised not to call the lawyer until next week so he has time to look at my case. I’m just hoping to god I have the best public defender in the county or something cause I know how that can go.
So what are the possibilities here? Would they force me to go back to Indiana for probation or to serve time? Will they give me probation and transfer it here? I literally don’t care if I never have a license another day in my life, or have to do probation or whatever. I just don’t want to have to upheave my whole life that just started here or have this affect the wellbeing of my family. Thanks to anyone who read this far or has any advice, I appreciate everyone in this sub so much.