I (19M) have been getting to know this girl (18F) for a while now, and up until recently I haven’t been thinking about the age gap as it never really crossed my mind. But recently I have been overthinking it to the point where I can’t stop asking myself for reassurance and searching up if it’s alright. It is only a 15 month age gap between us, we were only a year apart in school grades, yet I can’t help but thinking i’m so old compared to her when I remember that when I turn 20 she will technically still be 18, even if just for 3 months. I know that in later years like when we are both in our 20s it won’t seem like much at all, like 25 and 23/24 for example. But just now in this time of my life I can’t help but obsess over this detail. I know for her it’s probably not a big deal, but personally when I think about it, it makes me uncomfortable to think about being 20 and dating an 18 year old, or the fact that i’ve already been going out experiencing adult life for the past year and a bit and shes completely knew to all of this. I would really like some advice on this matter because I must of searched up “is a 15 month age gap ok for a 19 year old” thousands of times by now and am in a constant loop of accepting it and then questioning it again. Technically we are in the exact same stage of life, she’s in her first year of uni and i’m in my second year. But I keep telling myself how I wish the gap was 12 months or less, because i’m fine with being a year older but that 3 months just messes with my head. Anyways if anyone had some advice it would really be appreciated.
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I (19M) have been getting to know this girl (18F) for a while now, and up until recently I haven’t been thinking about the age gap as it never really crossed my mind. But recently I have been overthinking it to the point where I can’t stop asking myself for reassurance and searching up if it’s alright. It is only a 15 month age gap between us, we were only a year apart in school grades, yet I can’t help but thinking i’m so old compared to her when I remember that when I turn 20 she will technically still be 18, even if just for 3 months. I know that in later years like when we are both in our 20s it won’t seem like much at all, like 25 and 23/24 for example. But just now in this time of my life I can’t help but obsess over this detail. I know for her it’s probably not a big deal, but personally when I think about it, it makes me uncomfortable to think about being 20 and dating an 18 year old, or the fact that i’ve already been going out experiencing adult life for the past year and a bit and shes completely knew to all of this. I would really like some advice on this matter because I must of searched up “is a 15 month age gap ok for a 19 year old” thousands of times by now and am in a constant loop of accepting it and then questioning it again. Technically we are in the exact same stage of life, she’s in her first year of uni and i’m in my second year. But I keep telling myself how I wish the gap was 12 months or less, because i’m fine with being a year older but that 3 months just messes with my head. Anyways if anyone had some advice it would really be appreciated.