I matched with a guy about 2 weeks ago and things started off really well. He was playful, nice, and replying pretty consistently. After a bit, he started asking more serious questions to see if we align long-term (things like how many kids we want, roles/responsibilities in a relationship, etc.) and he said he is serious. He said my answers were “logical” and seemed into the conversation.
Two days ago, I told him that ok you are asking nice questions but I feel like we don’t actually know much about each other’s lifestyles yet. I mentioned that he doesn’t really know how I live, and brought up that I live alone (I’m doing my PhD abroad), etc so we should get to know each other too.
He said he was trying to check alignment first, but he was surprised that I live alone. I explained briefly that I live alone and I mentioned my brothers don’t like to come abroad, and then… he just disappeared. Left me on delivered for 24 hours.
After that, I sent a light follow-up like:
“so was the ‘i live alone’ plot twist too much lol”
And now it’s been about 5 more hours… still on delivered.
He’s a doctor, so I know he could be busy, but the sudden change in communication is throwing me off. I’m not sure if:
\- he got turned off by the living alone thing, maybe he thought I don’t come from a good family? Idk if he sees my worth:( or maybe I was misunderstood
\-he lost interest
\-or he’s actually just busy
He seemed like a really good potential match, so I’m honestly a bit confused and overthinking it now. I also noticed he was active on Instagram at some point, which made me wonder if he’s choosing not to reply.
I’ve been ghosted before and I really hate that feeling. It makes me feel a bit humiliated, like I’m being desperate. I am usually a laid-back girl and don’t invest much, but I actually tried to match the effort for the first time. Now I kind of regret it, and this whole situation is stressing me out way more than it should.