u/Bertha_Proper

I'm 29M and about 4 months ago i moved to a city by the sea. i work from home, so when i rented my place, i specifically looked for an apartment with a separate office.

the apartment is great. bedroom, office, living room, big kitchen, 7 minutes to the beach. the office has a sofa, tv, big desk and storage, so it can work as a guest room for a weekend.

that's how this started. my parents came for one weekend. then some friends came for one weekend. everyone asked first, gave exact dates, left sunday, cleaning came and monday morning i had my office back, so no problem.

then relatives saw beach photos online and people i barely talk to started asking to visit. i was okay with short planned visits from people i’m close to. i was not okay with my place becoming a free beach hotel.

a month ago my grandma called and said she, my aunt and two cousins were coming next week. i should have asked exact dates, but i didn’t. they arrived friday. grandma and my aunt slept in the office, cousins slept in the living room. we had a nice weekend.

then sunday morning they casually said they were staying until the next weekend.

i was pissed, but i didn’t want to throw my grandma out, so i dealt with it. that week sucked. i couldn’t work at home and had to drive 40 minutes each way to a coworking space.

three days after they left, grandma called again and said another cousin, who i’ve met maybe four times, was coming with his wife and four kids for two weeks because the kids needed the sea.

i said no clearly. she said they already had tickets. i said i never invited them, they never asked me, and my apartment is not a hotel.

last friday around lunch, security called from the gate saying six people were there for me. i went downstairs. it was my cousin, his wife and four kids with bags. he said grandma told him i was expecting them.

i told him i had already said no. i gave them names of nearby hotels and rentals and offered to buy lunch for the kids while they figured out, but i didn't let them upstairs.

now i'm being called selfish and cruel because kids were involved.

AITAH?

I work at a small furniture store as a sales associate. once a month we do inventory counts after lunch and corporate needs the nu,bers entered by the end of the day.

last friday, my manager split the stockroom sections between four of us. i had rugs and lightning. my coworker rachel had dinning chairs. our assistant manager was the one responsible for checking the final counts and submitting everything.

we were told to start around 1 and finish by 5. i finished my sections around 4, double checked them and gave the sheet to the assistant manager.

at 4:45 rachel came over and asked if i could help her knock out dining chairs. i asked how much she had left. she said basically all of it.

to be fair, she had been on the sales floor with a customer for a while, but the customer told her pretty early they were only browsing. she also took lunch late and spent time fixing display tags nobody asked her to fix. basically, she kept doing everything except the count.

i told her i couldn’t stay late because i had a scheduled raid in WoW at 6. i know that sounds stupid to some people, but i make side income from carrying runs and if i no show, i lose the spot, the payout and probably the group.

she said it was just a video game and coworkers help each other. i said my shift ended at 5 and i had finished my assigned work.

she got annoyed and said i was acting like her boss. i told her i wasn’t her boss, which was exactly why i wasn’t responsible for fixing her time management.

she ended up staying with the assistant manager until about 6:45. the numbers got submitted, so nothing blew up.

now she's telling people i left her hanging for a game and made her miss dinner with her boyfriend's parents. one coworker said i was technically right, but staying 30 minutes would have been kinder.

but i had already other business planned and tired of my free time being treated like backup storage for someone else's bad planning.

AITA?