u/BenchNew5808

I'm going to study at Cebu to study English in IT Park, Cebu, Anyone else studying there or going to study there or living thereby.

here's self-introduction: Im from China 22F. I'm open to all topics. like Movies、Books 、Self - growth、 History  Stories 、Documentary、 Psychology 、English、 Literature、 Society、Culture、Comedy、Sports、Caree… and something i don't know and that is what I'm really curious. I think everyone is different and unique. I want to get to know different opinions and make interesting friends.

Actually i like to discuss with people who have different life experiences that i have never experienced and have different opinions and views. I'm really looking forward to meeting different people. There are all kinds of people in the world, all kinds of life. Everyone has their unique beauty, their life philosophy, which is very cute. I truly believe that anyone I have met is free and changeable, which is absolutely amazing to me.

and … I want to ask about something about Cebu's life. culture， food， history，scenery ，The lifestyle of local people， Entertainment and activities ，Shopping and prices，Religion and beliefs，Youth culture

I really appreciate your advice. Feel free to dm me.

I met a much older man online. At first, we talked for about ten months, and we really enjoyed exchanging views. He was never disrespectful at all and always acted like a true gentleman. Then he came to meet me in January this year. He treated me with great respect. Knowing I had no money, he gave me some, which moved me deeply. We slept together for the first time at the end of January — it was my first time ever.

After he left, between February and March, he gradually let on that he talked to different women. Actually, I knew he had many female friends right from the start, and I didn’t really mind it at first. Then in April, he slowly told me about one particular female friend of his — she’s married, and she often talks with him about his relationship with me, even analyzing what’s going on between us. Whenever we have conflicts, he always goes to ask for her advice. After introducing this woman to me, he told me her story: her husband cheated on her, and ever since she had their second baby, her husband has never been intimate with her again. I felt immense sympathy for her. He also said this female friend often helps him figure out my feelings and thoughts. He sent me screenshots and photos of her, and I really grew to like her. She never judged my emotions and seemed to truly understand me.

After I showed how fond I was of her, he told me straight out that she is his girlfriend and that he loves her deeply — and that he loves me too. He said he met her first, but she has made it clear she doesn’t want a divorce for the sake of her children. So she told him to see other people, hoping he could find someone who would accept a three-person, or even polyamorous, relationship. I really like this woman as a friend and grew willing to accept this dynamic.

Still, I can’t help feeling uneasy. He slept with me without telling me the full truth about his complicated relationship status from the start. He keeps looking for new people all the time. I can believe it’s possible for someone to love two people at once, but it still makes me uncomfortable — I never imagined this would happen to me.

The reason I can’t leave is that he keeps supporting me financially, covering my tuition fees. I know clearly that if I end things with him, my life will become extremely hard. Before I met him, I was already struggling to find work and get by on my own. Part of me wants to go back to that independent life, yet another part of me still wants to accept his financial help. I feel guilty for thinking this way, and I don’t know how to sort out my feelings.

I really did have genuine feelings for him at the very beginning. I never imagined it would turn out like this at all.

Money and emotions have become completely tangled up between us, and it’s tearing me apart inside. He’s coming to see me tomorrow, and I’m really scared to meet him. I have no idea what to do and would really appreciate some advice.

sorry. My english is not good. so i use ai translation

I met a much older man online. At first, we talked for about ten months, and we really enjoyed exchanging views. He was never disrespectful at all and always acted like a true gentleman. Then he came to meet me in January this year. He treated me with great respect. Knowing I had no money, he gave me some, which moved me deeply. We slept together for the first time at the end of January — it was my first time ever.

After he left, between February and March, he gradually let on that he talked to different women. Actually, I knew he had many female friends right from the start, and I didn’t really mind it at first. Then in April, he slowly told me about one particular female friend of his — she’s married, and she often talks with him about his relationship with me, even analyzing what’s going on between us. Whenever we have conflicts, he always goes to ask for her advice. After introducing this woman to me, he told me her story: her husband cheated on her, and ever since she had their second baby, her husband has never been intimate with her again. I felt immense sympathy for her. He also said this female friend often helps him figure out my feelings and thoughts. He sent me screenshots and photos of her, and I really grew to like her. She never judged my emotions and seemed to truly understand me.

After I showed how fond I was of her, he told me straight out that she is his girlfriend and that he loves her deeply — and that he loves me too. He said he met her first, but she has made it clear she doesn’t want a divorce for the sake of her children. So she told him to see other people, hoping he could find someone who would accept a three-person, or even polyamorous, relationship. I really like this woman as a friend and grew willing to accept this dynamic.

Still, I can’t help feeling uneasy. He slept with me without telling me the full truth about his complicated relationship status from the start. He keeps looking for new people all the time. I can believe it’s possible for someone to love two people at once, but it still makes me uncomfortable — I never imagined this would happen to me.

The reason I can’t leave is that he keeps supporting me financially, covering my tuition fees. I know clearly that if I end things with him, my life will become extremely hard. Before I met him, I was already struggling to find work and get by on my own. Part of me wants to go back to that independent life, yet another part of me still wants to accept his financial help. I feel guilty for thinking this way, and I don’t know how to sort out my feelings.

I really did have genuine feelings for him at the very beginning. I never imagined it would turn out like this at all.

Money and emotions have become completely tangled up between us, and it’s tearing me apart inside. He’s coming to see me tomorrow, and I’m really scared to meet him. I have no idea what to do and would really appreciate some advice.