u/BellOHara_444

Your perspective would be so helpful to me 😄 

After I initiated five months of no contact, I reached out to a long time friend suggesting we chat to officially close the chapter on our friendship, but her response was unexpectedly ambiguous. She replied by saying she was "happy to meet up" but asked to schedule a time to meet for sometime in June because she has a few work exams to get through this month. I followed up to clarify that I didn't want to "negotiate her feelings" (where suggested us implementing boundaries) like I had in our last call... where she originally suggested ending the friendship.

I explicitly asked if she was actually open to reconnecting or if she’d prefer to just close the friendship. She offered a brief apology, noting that the previous conversation "could’ve been better on her part" as well, and only stated that she still wants to meet in June. 

Despite this, her messages feel clinical and lack of any real emotion or enthusiasm, leaving me wondering if she’s genuinely interested in reconnecting our friendship or if she’s just being polite and wants a  final goodbye in person ??? 

Your perspective would be so helpful to me 😄 

After I initiated five months of no contact, I reached out to a long time friend suggesting we chat to officially close the chapter on our friendship, but her response was unexpectedly ambiguous. She replied by saying she was "happy to meet up" but asked to schedule a time to meet for sometime in June because she has a few work exams to get through this month. I followed up to clarify that I didn't want to "negotiate her feelings" (where suggested us implementing boundaries) like I had in our last call... where she originally suggested ending the friendship.

I explicitly asked if she was actually open to reconnecting or if she’d prefer to just close the friendship. She offered a brief apology, noting that the previous conversation "could’ve been better on her part" as well, and only stated that she still wants to meet in June.

Despite this, her messages feel clinical and lack of any real emotion or enthusiasm, leaving me wondering if she’s genuinely interested in reconnecting our friendship or if she’s just being polite and wants a  final goodbye in person ??? 

Your perspective would be so helpful to me 😄 

After I initiated five months of not talking, I reached out to a long time friend suggesting we chat to officially close the chapter on being friends, but her response was unexpectedly ambiguous. She replied by saying she was "happy to meet up" but asked to schedule a time to meet for sometime in June because she has a few work exams to get through this month. I followed up to clarify that I didn't want to "negotiate her feelings" (where I suggested us to implement boundaries) like I had in our last call... where she originally suggested ending the friendship.

I explicitly asked if she was actually open to reconnecting or if she’d prefer to just close the book. She offered a brief apology, noting that the previous conversation "could’ve been better on her part" as well, and only stated that she still wants to meet in June. 

Despite this, her messages feel clinical and lack of any real emotion or enthusiasm, leaving me wondering if she’s genuinely interested in reconnecting our friendship or if she’s just being polite and wants a final goodbye in person ??? 

TL;DR: After 5 months of no contact, I messaged a long-time friend to suggest we chat to officially close out the friendship. She agreed to meet but pushed it to June due to exams. I then sent a long follow-up mentioning I previously "negotiated her feelings" and asked her if she wants to either reconnect or option to close the friendship. But, she doubled down on wanting to meet in June. Now her clinical, emotionless tone has me wondering if I’m overthinking or if she's just being polite before a final goodbye ?

Hello, all the perspective would be so helpful as I find it strange, but maybe I'm just reading into it a lot!

I initiated a friend break from a longtime friend of like 15 yr, there is a few months left until the break is complete; and I reach out again. However, a few days ago I unfriended their mother on Instagram. The mom continues to follow me. Nothing odd about that. I had forced an unfollow, so their mom isn't following me anymore. I make my page private (for reasons unrelated to them.) Now here is the strange thing. Their mother followed me again from their second account on Friday at 9:20pm and I get a notification about it the next day.

TL;DR, I had planned to continue the with friend when the pause is over but now I'm considering what the mother following me again means? Should I continue the with friend OR End the with friend based on this ? As I suspecting conversations are occurring around them for their parent to even search my random handle at night and find me?

Thanks 😄

I initiated a pause from my friend of over fifteen years.

I asked for more than half a year of space from them, they appreciated it, agreed and was happy to reconcile later. I communicated a date of uniting, and that date is approaching soon.

TL;DR : How should I go about initiating an adequate message to him? They’re sensitive so A bit more than, "hey, how are you? how's it going?" but still chill and relevant.

Thanks for the advice in advance ! :)

I initiated a break from my friend of over fifteen years.

I asked for more than half a year of space from him, he appreciated, agreed and was happy to reconcile later. I communicated a date of uniting, and that date is approaching soon.

How should I go about initiating an adequate message to him? He's sensitive, but shuts down often, too. So, a bit more than, "hey, how are you? how's it going?" but still chill and relevant.

Thanks for the advice in advance ! 😄