u/Beginning_Crazy_3192

Ok, if it helps I'm an INFJ, (self typed studying cognitive functions, it took a while)

I always try to learn from my mistakes, and I hate being incompetent, really, it just something I dislike, but I also want to be a good person, I don't care if everyone percieves me as a good person, (after all internally i may trust someone's feedback over someone elses if i see they're a more emotionally intelligent person, or like i'm not gonna cry over the fact that the guy that hates me tells me I'm annoying, to him even if i changed i would still be annoying (ok made sure of that don't want to just push everyone that dislikes me away, but like i've made sure of it)) I'm gonna try to do good, to be someone who says the truth, who knows how to behave socially, but not let social mechanisms stop me from pointing out an unfair behaviour, if it's really bad (like if i'm in class and someone forgot their ereaser for the drawing class i'm not gonna tell the teacher like we're all humans)

I do tend to... sometimes make other's problems my own, or like I want to help, really open to helping people, communication (communication is something I need, I'm trying to become better socially, but I do have a tendency to blame myself)

It hurts more when my mistakes hurt others, 'cause my own mistake, my own failure affected others...

I used to think I was a 5w6, 5 'cause of my want to not be incapable, even in knowledge, culture, open point of view, social understanding...

I'm open to any questions, since I'm fairly new to enneagram theory, I am fairly young...

Thanks to anyone who helps, or like helps even the slightest bit😄

I am open to critique, again, thanks for reading.

So I'm a girl, we go to school together, different classes, just to add context I'm in a mainly boy school, there's this guy, let's call him Dan, Dan's like the most popular in the first 2 years (the school is divided into first 2 years, biennio, and last 3 years, triennio (italian btw)) and he... really manages the crowd?

I've seen him lead 3 classes to scream hyppie, hurray [our school's name] during a school trip, and he's big physically, but always stops fights, gets in between people hitting each other... and each day he has something new, one day he plays the sax during break (and he actually gave me motivation to restart playing the flute after leaving it for a bit when I've played it for about 5 years)

Initially I wanted to become friends with him 'cause my mentor-teacher (she teaches physics, has my class and his class so knows both of us) spoke really well ab him as a person...

So I did approach him ab hanging out to get to know each other and asked ab thursday, he told me that day he had an issue (explained it really clearly but that's his business so i'm not talking ab it here) and that the rest of the week he has sport (not sure but rugby i think)

And when i went out with my parents shopping i got a rugby ball keychain, along with a hand made or like bracelet i customized based on things i know ab him or just some cool patterns that i'm also planning on gifting to him...

Other info that can be relevant:

-we're in the same year

-so he randomly comes in my class, says hi to his friends in there, but since i talked to him a bit more one week ago he went in my class almost everyday, we randomly met each other in halls n stuff... but I could be just imagining the change...

-my approach was... interesting to say the least,I chatted sometimes, asked ab his day, then one day dropped the fun fact that snakes have 2 penises and one time asked him if penguins and seagulls reproduced, would the child be able to fly or no? (and i was willing to do a whole convo on that)

-I have his number, i don't have insta or tiktok, so I had to ask his number

- (ok turning 16 this year) and 17 (he had to repeat the first year, he's... always out of his class, having friends, but wholesome, tries to keep the class from getting the class dirty to help the janitor)

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yes this story is real, yes I did do that, questions

1-am I hopeless?

2-any help is accepted... pls?

3-also critiques are accepted... or questions

I want to at least make a friendship with him...

So I'm an INFJ, girl, we go to school together, different classes, just to add context I'm in a mainly boy school, there's this guy, let's call him Dan, Dan's like the most popular in the first 2 years (the school is divided into first 2 years, biennio, and last 3 years, triennio (italian btw)) and he... really manages the crowd?

I've seen him lead 3 classes to scream hyppie, hurray [our school's name] during a school trip, and he's big physically, but always stops fights, gets in between people hitting each other... and each day he has something new, one day he plays the sax during break (and he actually gave me motivation to restart playing the flute after leaving it for a bit when I've played it for about 5 years)

Initially I wanted to become friends with him 'cause my mentor-teacher (I'm 99% sure she's INFJ?) (she teaches physics, has my class and his class so knows both of us) spoke... really well ab him as a person...

I'm planning to do 2 things:

1-suggest to him ab a course for instruments that's set in my town (but people do it on meet) it starts these days, 5 years from now those who get really good go to do a concert-competition in nyc, I could be a translator for him since the lessons are in english, and I'm good at it

2-ask him to hang out just the 2 of us as friends, chat a bit, get to know each other better...

Other info that can be relevant:

-we're in the same year

-so he randomly comes in my class, says hi to his friends in there, but since i talked to him a bit more one week ago he went in my class almost everyday, we randomly met each other in halls n stuff... but I could be just imagining the change...

-I have a friend who's also a friend of his and he's kinda being my right hand man at knowing how to approach him

-my approach was... interesting to say the least,>! I chatted sometimes, asked ab his day, then one day dropped the fun fact that snakes have 2 penises and one time asked him if penguins and seagulls reproduced, would the child be able to fly or no? (and i was willing to do a whole convo on that)!<

-I have his number, i don't have insta or tiktok, so I had to ask his number

- (ok turning 16 this year) and 17 (he had to repeat the first year, he's... always out of his class, having friends, but wholesome, tries to keep the class from getting the class dirty to help the janitor)

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yes this story is real, yes I did do that, questions

1-is my typing correct?

2-am I hopeless?

3-any help is accepted... pls?

4-also critiques are accepted... or questions

I want to at least make a friendship with him...