I’m 22f Pakistani Canadian. I’m currently in Pakistan and my parents are pressuring me into a marriage. The guy is from Ireland so I would need to leave my family and relocate there which is making me anxious. I’m also 4’10 and he looks about 5’10 so I feel we have too much of a height difference. I have never met him in person but he’s an engineer. I’m getting extremely anxious because my parents saying I need to do a nikkah when he gets here and I want to do an engagement. A nikkah is giving me extreme anxiety. My parents are saying he’s not going to come here just for an engagement and that they break off all the time. I like that he travels a lot and has a good job but he’s older than me (30) and so I feel hes going to make me have kids too early and I don’t want any the first 1-3 years of marriage. Also he was raised in paksitan so he won’t be able to speak English well like me. I already rejected another rishta so if I reject him my parents won’t allow it. They said I have to do nikkah or they won’t let me go to canada. The mother of the first rishta I rejected hates our family now and if I reject this guy everyone’s going to talk badly about me especially for making him come to pk. I like a lot of qualities about him but there’s some he’s lacking too but my parents are saying I’ll never find someone better. Desperately need advice.
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I’m 22f Pakistani Canadian. I’m currently in Pakistan and my parents are pressuring me into a marriage. The guy is from Ireland so I would need to leave my family and relocate there which is making me anxious. I’m also 4’10 and he looks about 5’10 so I feel we have too much of a height difference. I have never met him in person but he’s an engineer. I’m getting extremely anxious because my parents saying I need to do a nikkah when he gets here and I want to do an engagement. A nikkah is giving me extreme anxiety. My parents are saying he’s not going to come here just for an engagement and that they break off all the time. I like that he travels a lot and has a good job but he’s older than me (30) and so I feel hes going to make me have kids too early and I don’t want any the first 1-3 years of marriage. Also he was raised in paksitan so he won’t be able to speak English well like me. I already rejected another rishta so if I reject him my parents won’t allow it. They said I have to do nikkah or they won’t let me go to canada. The mother of the first rishta I rejected hates our family now and if I reject this guy everyone’s going to talk badly about me especially for making him come to pk. I like a lot of qualities about him but there’s some he’s lacking too but my parents are saying I’ll never find someone better. Desperately need advice.