How do i M27 express to my fiance F23 that she needs to contribute more to either the household or our collective income?
For the past few years i have been working full time, or sometimes more than that, to try to keep us afloat because she was unable to work. She has been through lots of therapy by now and to her credit she has really worked hard on that and is now basically finished with therapy.
As of right now she isnt working yet and says she doesnt feel ready to start working. Im willing to accept that for now, even if it means our finances are hella tight. What bothers me is that she constantly complains that our house is a mess and that i dont clean up after myself etc. even though she is at home basically 24/7.
There are days when i wake up at 04:30 and work from 06:00 to 14:00 only to come home and have to come get her out of bed, and she will still have the nerve to give me a list of chores and tell me i'm not doing enough and that *I* am lazy.
In my opinion, maintaining a 2 person household with a dog (that i take care of for 95%) and 3 cats should be a manageable workload for someone who has no other responsibilities. I dont expect her to do anything special. She doesnt have to cook for me or do my laundry etc if she doesnt feel like it. I dont expect every corner of the house to be spotless, in fact, the desire for a cleaner, tidier house comes mostly from her side.
How do i discuss this with her? I've tried before but we never seem to get anywhere.
I'd also be totally fine with hiring someone to help with the housekeeping instead, but that would require her to get a job so we actually could earn enough money for that.