u/BeaniePole1792

MIL decided to make blankets for all her grandkids. Our daughter is the oldest being 14 with the next biological grandkid being 7 - BIlL’s kid. And then BIL has a stepdaughter that is 12. MIL informed us about the blanket months ago but started on the youngest kid and then the 12 year old.

Today she calls me that the blanket will take 2 more weeks. I am like take your time. Because 1. We didn’t ask for a blanket so there isn’t a set deadline and 2. She doesn’t even know what daughter is doing. It goes in one ear and out the other. Daughter is wrapping up 8th grade and has all of the end of the year stuff going on. MIL doesn’t care about any of her achievements. We don’t bother inviting the IL to awards, etc. MIL doesn’t even know what school she goes to even though it’s right next to the elementary that she volunteered at without my knowledge when daughter was in elementary.

Top it off, daughter wished her Happy Mother’s Day when husband called and she thought I said it. She told me thank you. She didn’t even ask about her grandkid. She only asked us if we wanted to join them to eat. I said what restaurant and husband gave me a glare and daughter was covering her mouth not to laugh. Not like I wanted to go but I was curious.

I was talking about husband about performative niceness - why does she do it when she doesn’t mean it? Why does he do it when he doesn’t mean it? Like why call if he wants to avoid her? And why am I having to pretend? Daughter knows grandma is full of crap. It’s fine for him to call his mom but why did he have to drag me into it?

We live in FL and it will be summer. Daughter really doesn’t care about the blanket since grandma has dismissed all her achievements to a category of “that’s nice”

At least MIL is keeping busy.

My kid is a teen. She went to her 8th grade end of the year party for dance. Parents could stay. It was at a bowling alley and it was rainy. I had nothing else to do. I am the only driver in our family right now and we were done with all the chores needed. I stayed because why not. I talked with coach. 2 other parents stayed because they have special needs kids. But no other parent stayed because they had other kids. One parent decided to spend time with their son while their daughter did the dance party.

So I was wondering if staying was the right thing to do. Daughter and I went to a ducky claw machine and we ended up getting ducks for her collection.

I end up using the time to have a little fun myself. Otherwise, I would be going home and then driving back. If I had stuff to do, I would do it but mostly I have time carved out and I feel most parents don’t because they are dealing with multiple kids.