u/BcBJA — reddlx

Is this guy a goner?

I haven’t had him long, and I clearly did him dirty. Any hope on saving him from a landfill?

u/BcBJA — 3 days ago

I’m a mother to one over 2. Shes always been a fairly easy baby. I have not been. I feel let down by my husband in terms of emotional support. During a lengthy period of PPD, husband says he feels he tried everything and nothing worked and now feels like trying is futile because I’m never satisfied. Which seems mean and not fair but I also understand it.

I both feel undernourished (emotionally) but also like I don’t know if there’s anything he can do to make it better. I want to forgive and move on from the past but feel stuck and numb. We rarely fought before baby. Now I snap at him, or sometimes I don’t even think it’s snapping that significantly, he snaps back and then I feel like it’s toxic and we can’t make it. I’m on meds, I don’t see much difference.

I go to individual therapy, we go to couples therapy. I want to make it, I want to be optimistic and I’m finding it hard to get there and I feel like seeds of doubt are taking root and are getting hard/er to break.

For those who have had similar experiences, I’m looking for success stories, because I already know and dread the opposite and feel it will make me spiral. Was anyone able to get through the period and how did you? And how long did it take?

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u/BcBJA — 8 days ago

▲ 3 r/Hair

I wanted a chocolate brown, the color brown my hair is when it’s wet basically, with a couple of royal purple streaks. My hairstylist said she COULD do that if I really wanted, but convinced me that that wasn’t going to look good and would be too high maintenance for me & that I should with overall color. I think it came out way too dark, I think the color isn’t flattering, and even when it fades out, it’ll be too red & it’s not royal purple, it’s a plum. She did show me a sample but also said no one knows how it’ll actually come out and that it’s synthetic hair so grain of salt on the sample.

I just feel dumb/embarrassed because I spent hundreds of dollars and it’s my 40th birthday & I wanted to self care and this was supposed to be an homage to my younger self where I dyed my hair with manic panic on virgin hair and it turned out light black with streaks of gray and royal purple and & witchy and worked with pink, burgundy, rose and coral lips &I just wanted a more professional version of what I had as a kid,I’ve been totally confused on what kind of makeup I even wear with it this morning. I feel stupid and embarrassed and don’t want to go outside.

I have heard on social media that you can say something to your stylist about not liking the color outcome, but I don’t know if it’s just social media blowing smoke, or I get what I get it and don’t get upset because I ultimately went with what she recommended /she showed me samples so it’s on me, or if I did this critique, I would have to pay for the fix up, which at this pt I’d just accept and live with bc I’m cheap. Or, also it’s a brand new dye job & maybe it will settle overtime. Sorry my before photo is so rough, I don’t take photos of myself that often lol.

Also sorry if the body comes out twice, I’ve messed up on reddit phoyos and text before!

u/BcBJA — 15 days ago